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Certainly there are things you can do, like on Facebook, where you can block them. But what I find is that each time you block them through one mechanism, they just go to the next vehicle to try and harass you there. This is the nature of their obsession, they just don't stop because a roadblock goes up. They don't stop when you get the authorities involved. Maybe they can't stop, I don't know. So, yes, you implement all the privacy settings you can, but then you also continue to document any contact they try to do...and each time they find a new way, you block that too, but you still document it. I don't think anyone is suggesting that all you do is document. What we're saying is that in addition to all the protections you can put in place to block this person, also document everything that happens in case you need to ask the authorities for help, so you can show the pattern of behavior.
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THANK YOU Seesaw, I had no idea they had ways around privacy settings & blocking. Definitely doccumenting what goes on when that happens is IMPORTANT so the guru's can figure out how to plug those holes too.
What a horrible experience!!!! ![]()
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of course everyone should protect themselves from stalkers because you never know how far it might go. You're correct that any thread can be found triggering by someone but that doesn't mean that person can't say they find it triggering either. There is always the villified 'other'.
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"Pedophiles, rapists, and others that have abused another individual physically, psychologically, emotionally or sexually (generally real or acted-upon) are not welcome here because our focus is on support for victims of such abuse; the two are not compatible with one another. Exceptions can be made on a case-by-case basis." I would think that stalkers qualify under abusers. I frankly don't care if someone who has abused me can get emotional support or not. That's not my concern. If someone on this forum needs support for obsessive thinking about someone, I'm all about helping them handle their intrusive thoughts, but I'm not going to condone or pretend to condone abusive behavior. This thread is about the damage that being stalked has done to us. If you want to start a thread about dealing with obsessive thoughts related to stalking then maybe that's what you should do, instead of coming on here and challenging people who have been the victims of this abuse. Seesaw
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It is a fine line....the behavior of my H was abusive to me but the way I responded to that abuse could be seen as abusive to him. The condition I found out he has that created his unusial behavior is said by those who have it thao one just has to tolerate those behaviors because that is WHO they are & "tough luck if you are hurt by it....that is your problem". These kinds of issues get complicated.
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I imagine these individuals are drama junkies and they seek out individuals they can get worked up in some kind of drama. This type gets bored with being thoughtful and caring, what they thrive on more is the thrill drama brings to them.
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The problem is that thebterm stalker is losely defined & what may seem luke a stalker to one may not seem like it to someone else.
Some because of their mental condition don't even get it that what they are doing is coming across as stalking to others. We actually had a thread like that hers on PC.....definitelf NOT a sociopath. Generalized labels are not ALWAYS appropriate even if they fit many times
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Stalking is defined as two unwanted contacts. So, no, it's not loosely defined. If you notify someone their contact is unwanted, and they continue to approach you and try to have contact with you, then they are a stalker.
And I'm not discounting that someone who is a stalker may not be aware of their behavior. I know the thread that Eskie is referring to, and, yes, these people are suffering from their own illness and demons. I don't like generalizing them as psychopaths or any other derogatory term. But legally the behavior is called stalking and they are stalkers. Having an illness does not make them any less of a stalker. Having a mental illness is not an excuse for illegal or harmful behavior towards another.
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Yeah, like i hate to say this, but I'm being cyberstalked right now on this site. Thankfully the admins and mods here have been handling it very quickly. I really appreciate their responsiveness to this issue and understanding that it is very real.
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![]() What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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