[lotsofq]

It's amazing to me that as an adult I am in a position where I am being seriously bullied, and yet the police say they can't do anything because it's not an imminent threat. How is a child supposed to find help when an adult can't even!

[1776]

What is happening?

[lotsofq]

Originally Posted by 1776

What is happening?

a person who lives in the same building as me plays her music so loud that the pictures on my wall fall off. I asked her to turn it down, she in not so kind words said no. I told her if she didn't that I would call the cops. I ended up just going for a walk, but I guess someone did call the cops and she thinks it was me. She has posted all over Facebook and text messages to me how much of a waste of life I am and no one wants me around. I am worthless. Just in general taunting me. But...because she hasn't said she would physically hurt me in any specific way no one can do anything. I just literally tip toe around my apartment afraid to leave and run into her, and have nightmares every night of her kicking my door in and hurting me. I would just move, but I don't have the money to right now.

[1776]

I'm sorry someone is being so rude to you. There are a lot of inconsiderate people out there.

I had the same problem, but I'm taking the Fifth as to how I dealt with it.

[growlycat]

How about complaining to the landlord?

[lotsofq]

Originally Posted by growlycat

How about complaining to the landlord?

I have, he said he will take care of it but never does. The thing is, I understand people are rude and part of life is learning to deal with them. But when it comes to constantly being threatened and taunted, it is a completely different issue. That should never be ok no matter who you are.

[feralkittymom]

Some states seem to be passing anti cyber bullying laws. I don't know if that's available to you, or if your situation would fit such a law's jurisdiction. Also, does your locality have a noise ordinance? My home is in a University town, so this is a common problem with student rental occupancy. Otherwise, if other tenants are annoyed with the noise, you could form a petition to take to your landlord, and if he doesn't respond, file it also with your local housing department, which usually imposes a time limit for response. Most landlords, when faced with fines and a majority of unhappy tenants, will choose to cite the offender out of self-interest.

[lotsofq]

Originally Posted by feralkittymom

Some states seem to be passing anti cyber bullying laws. I don't know if that's available to you, or if your situation would fit such a law's jurisdiction. Also, does your locality have a noise ordinance? My home is in a University town, so this is a common problem with student rental occupancy. Otherwise, if other tenants are annoyed with the noise, you could form a petition to take to your landlord, and if he doesn't respond, file it also with your local housing department, which usually imposes a time limit for response. Most landlords, when faced with fines and a majority of unhappy tenants, will choose to cite the offender out of self-interest.

There is a 24 hour noise ordinance, but she knows when the cops are coming because she has a scanner. I actually left for the weekend because i needed to get away from the situation. maybe things will be different when i go back. one can only hope.

[IndieVisible]

Originally Posted by lotsofq

a person who lives in the same building as me plays her music so loud that the pictures on my wall fall off. I asked her to turn it down, she in not so kind words said no. I told her if she didn't that I would call the cops. I ended up just going for a walk, but I guess someone did call the cops and she thinks it was me. She has posted all over Facebook and text messages to me how much of a waste of life I am and no one wants me around. I am worthless. Just in general taunting me. But...because she hasn't said she would physically hurt me in any specific way no one can do anything. I just literally tip toe around my apartment afraid to leave and run into her, and have nightmares every night of her kicking my door in and hurting me. I would just move, but I don't have the money to right now.

You got her! That's cyber bullying. Get screen shots of her facebook posts before she deletes them. Since this is a Internet issue, Homeland Security is in charge of Internet security. I know they were created for terrorists and such but as any gov agency suddenly their responsibility has expanded. They may just refer this to the local police but if Homeland tells them to act they act. At any rate just keep taking screen shots, she is GIVING YOU evidence. You have that and the noise disturbances!

This should be treated seriously. People have committed suicide over cyber bullying, your local police are not current with this. They treated as a typical domestic dispute. She crossed the line with facebook. It's the same as if she yelled at you and insulted you in from of hundreds of people, only worse!

[growlycat]

Maybe i'm a bit childish in my revenge fantasies, but I always liked the idea of this website/service:
poopsenders - the ULTIMATE gag gift - SWEET revenge at its finest

If you want a more dignified way of sending a message maybe:
App will anonymously tell bullies, boors and blowhards the error of their ways - Winnipeg Free Press

[growlycat]

or….a funny shaming note on her door might do it…here is some inspiration...

[lotsofq]

Originally Posted by IndieVisible

You got her! That's cyber bullying. Get screen shots of her facebook posts before she deletes them. Since this is a Internet issue, Homeland Security is in charge of Internet security. I know they were created for terrorists and such but as any gov agency suddenly their responsibility has expanded. They may just refer this to the local police but if Homeland tells them to act they act. At any rate just keep taking screen shots, she is GIVING YOU evidence. You have that and the noise disturbances!

This should be treated seriously. People have committed suicide over cyber bullying, your local police are not current with this. They treated as a typical domestic dispute. She crossed the line with facebook. It's the same as if she yelled at you and insulted you in from of hundreds of people, only worse!

Thank you so much for the info! I will look into it! Yes, the police said that she can say whatever she wants on Facebook all I can do is report her to Facebook.

[IndieVisible]

Originally Posted by lotsofq

Thank you so much for the info! I will look into it! Yes, the police said that she can say whatever she wants on Facebook all I can do is report her to Facebook.

Facebook supposedly has zero tolerance for cyber bullying but all they will do is warn her. Be sure you make it clear how distressed all that made you.

Good luck with that neighbor from hell

[Rosondo]

wrong section

[0w6c379]

There are no physical scars or visible bruising from emotional abuse. Yet, the pain is real and lasting. Sorry you are dealing with this.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by lotsofq

Thank you so much for the info! I will look into it! Yes, the police said that she can say whatever she wants on Facebook all I can do is report her to Facebook.

You could just block her then, if FB is the main source of where the bullying occurs, then if blocked, you, also, won't be tempted to read her words.

In my state, there's a 'harassment' 209A. You need to show, at least three instances, of harassment. Which, blocking fb, before gathering evidence, might not work. Do you know, how to screen shot???

Now, she's blaring the radio, only to turn it down, when she knows that the cops are coming, because she has a scanner. Could always record this. Video with a time stamp, walking into the hallway, can actually show where the sound is coming from, the audio/visual effect. Not sure, how to get that into the courthouse, well, my courthouse, no electronics, but if you leave it, in your vehicle and getting a written note, from the judge requesting permission to bring it in, it can be done.

Good Luck, with the noisemaker, bullying neighbor.

[HockingPastryChef]

I would suggest leaving a note for her to read telling the truth of what happened. Ask her what is wrong of you asking her to turn down the music; that was not accepted. Tell her you were not the one who had called the cops with which you did say that you wanted to. Ask her how am I a problem here?

Because otherwise if she does threaten to physically hurt you then you can show the cops in a note she may write back or on your phone or throw facebook. That note can help you.

Then if nothing is solve that way then find another apartment through a nice realtor.

[profound_betrayal]

Originally Posted by lotsofq

It's amazing to me that as an adult I am in a position where I am being seriously bullied, and yet the police say they can't do anything because it's not an imminent threat. How is a child supposed to find help when an adult can't even!

I hear you lotsofq. it is hard to rationalize !!
I dont get it - above in red, bold..
You see 'little bullies' eventually GROW UP! Nothing to be said for accountability here ... sooooo they never learned. can get away with it!

i was threatened by my x today. he knows nothing can be done & so I just have to live with it!

keep us informed, pls.
best 2 you.

[profound_betrayal]

Originally Posted by growlycat

or….a funny shaming note on her door might do it…here is some inspiration...

I know huh? If authorities can't help - then one has to try something, anything!!

[seesaw]

I have some advice with this because I had a drunkard upstairs neighbor that would do this all the time. Once I went to ask him to turn his music down and he came at me with a beer bottle.

As far as the noise goes: document each time it happens. Keep a log where you write down when and for how long the noise lasts. Also video record each instance if you can. Most cities have ordinances about noise and how loud and when people can play music. They also have ordinances about the peaceful enjoyment of your home. Typically if you have to call the police more than a few times, and you can show proof, they will eventually write a ticket. But you have to call every time and be persistent about it.

Now, about the cyber bullying, Facebook recently changed its policies. It was having bots review reports of cyber bullying and harassment. Now there are real people reviewing the reports. My Facebook support group had a bully harassing us (actually filing false reports against us to CPS, APS, IRS, SSA, etc. from another state). He posted numerous threats, never got taken down. The second they changed their policy, his page was gone and he's banned from starting another. If we find him behind another page, they will take it down immediately. So make sure you report the bullying posts to Facebook, especially if she mentioned you by name or took a photo of you or where you live. Report it numerous times and report each post.

If she continues with the noise, and you gather enough evidence, you can actually take her to court and sue for her to cover the cost of your rent for all the time she was infringing upon your ability to peaceably enjoy your home.

Good luck,

Seesaw