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#26
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It's not ok with me to have his addiction come first, but it is clear to me that is how it would be if I stay with him. He's lost women before, I believe, from what he's told me, due to his addictions and finances. .
What if I like the new guy more? What will I do? He's giving me time and waiting patiently for me to have a break from dating. |
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Aside from your bfs addiction issue, he doesn’t treat you well.
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Once I wanted independence, a bf to support me financially was the only option because I didn’t earn enough. Then I would start my life doing whatever direction that took me. I know I’m totally capable, at least smart enough, to earn my own living, probably earn a good living by myself, but I always did do this with having to have a man. Just saying... IDK why really. But, when they are great, they are really, really great. Why wouldn’t I always want a man to love and have good times with, be life partners together with? P.s. Also, I think I have ADHD/OCD and I do have problems with sticking to things work related. Because I don’t have to? Because I have a man?
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What is he addicted to? Is it mainly weed and beer?
I think, by definition, an addict always prioritizes the addiction. That's pretty much what addiction is. |
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Cannabis, gambling, and not lots of alcohol but occasionally he over does that too.
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Gambling is an extremely hard addiction to live with. I've known two compulsive gamblers in my life. They will bleed others anyway they can to maximize their ability to gamble. That explains his stinginess. I'm glad you recognize that his addictions will come first. This is why I've said before that he won't find too many takers, among women, for what he offers. This is why he has been single and available. Few women will stay with a man like that. But he's all yours, if you want him. I'ld pass.
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#32
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I have no idea what you want to hear, but you definitely seem like you came here wanting to hear something specific. Do whatever you want.
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#33
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I’m sorry what qualities does your boyfriend have that are so attractive? He’s got serious problems and he’s rude - is that what your looking for in a partner? This whole thing seems a bit unreal....I’d definately re-evaluate my relationship status if I had to deal with all this crap!
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It's ok mac. Sorry I said you judged me. I came here for others perspectives and because guilt is an emotion I deal with daily, to the extreme. Raised by a strict Christian family, so my values are still there but my options are fewer as a 50 year old woman. Good men can be very hard to find. I put too much effort in, trying to hang on to what I think is love. I just need to make myself take time alone.
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