Single again.... maybe for the rest of my life

I woke up crying this morning because it's Valetine's Day. No matter what I tell myself (that it's just another day, that I need to be single right now), I feel very lonely and sad that I am all alone.

Many a soul is crying too because our idealistic expectations haven’t been met. Therre’s that whole concept of “...the pursuit of happiness”. Notice nothing says we are entitled to “happiness”...only the pursuit

I definitely believe we are entitled to happiness.. everyone is. I even run a happiness blog and wrote an article on how to be single on Valentine's day. Re-reading it doesn't even help me right now. The tears just keep flowing.

Last year at this time I was with my ex fiance. It is making me very sad. I feel nostalgic, even though he was SO wrong for me and it's best that we are apart. Of course, I paid for our lovely meal out! Ha.

You have a lot to be happy about. You could be happy that you aren’t spending yet another valentine day with yet another jerk. Also you could be happy that you saved a buck by not taking a man out and paying for his meal.

We are sure entitled to happiness but there is more to happiness than having a man, especially wrong man.

You could call homeless shelter (or log in to a system if there is one in your area, we have a system where you can sign up for volunteering at shelters of your choice, well I don’t live in the area with shelters but system covers all inner city shelters that are in a drivable distance), I bet they need someone to serve meal or clean up the kitchen today, especially if it’s a holiday.

You’d feel greatly appreciated and it will be better time spent than crying. I used to do it many holidays. Puts your life into huge perspective plus you can’t be crying serving meals in soup kitchen or washing dishes (although I was often teared up because of gratitude people in shelters expressed to those who come there on their free time to help out).

Thanks, Divine.

I just need to grieve I think. I am still grieving. I am over my crying spell. I have to work all day til 6 PM so I cannot volunteer anywhere, though it's a good idea. I am going out tonight to be around friends so that should be fun at least.

I AM happy that I am no longer supporting my fiance (ex) financially. It's a HUGE burden off.

And you're right - there's much to be happy and thankful about. I have two jobs now, income coming in, I got a fat raise with the new job.. I have a roof over my head, warmth during the winter, food, good friends & support from my family. I need to remember all these things. I know I am blessed in many ways....

Guess I just needed to cry and grieve. I need to just get through this day somehow and not think about the lack of love in my life.

Honestly, I've been following this thread every day, and it really has lifted my thoughts. Thank you all for being open and honest, thank you for acknowledging that being single at times like this, holidays, etc. can be so hard on you.
Thank you for the people who have found healthy ways of dealing with this emotional pain, and thank you to those who say they cry now.
I am holding a big lump in my throat for those who are crying now because I woke up today, and went about my business as if it were just another day. I totally forgot it was the big V day. And for a minute, when I remembered, I started to feel a sense of dread, and then sadness too. But, it passed, I don't have anyone to feel sad about, since I put everything into perspective.
Not too long ago I would have sent something "valentiney" to him just to let him know I care and am thinking of him, ha ha, I know it was just supply for him, and he doesn't want something like that from me, so I have a sense of relief knowing that I am not looking like an idiot for doing that, and that I'm not going to stress all day because I'm not going to get something in return.
I don't even care today if I ever do if it means I have to be hurt by it.
Yay for no flowers preemptively buttering me up before some kind of catastrophe! Hurray for no cards with sentiments that don't belong to the sender.
Hurray for no landmines, and labyrinthine guesswork!
Hurray for no abuse, no disappointment, no lies!
And now, to celebrate me living through another year of no bs, I will do something for me, just enjoy this being just another day.

This thread has also helped me. It clarified some thoughts and feelings. For one, i don't agree we are entitled to happiness but rather to the pursuit of happiness. It's an important distinction.

I have had tears on and off all day today. This is really hard on me right now.

This thread has been very helpful for a lot of people, including myself. I have gone through many cycles of hurtful relationships in my life. and even had so much pain revolving around this day in particular.

But gaining the strength that I have, overcoming the obstacles, has helped me be more compassionate and giving to others more than wallowing in the inner pain that I used to carry around with me so much.

Eve. you come a long way since you first made this thread, and it is noticeable that you are getting stronger every day. Today was just a setback, and I won't even discount your feelings because you are entitled to them especially since I understand where you are coming from.

Everyone always says "its just another day" but it isn't to a lot of people. The best thing to do is have a good time tonight with your friends at the music event, and get up tomorrow morning and keep on doing what you've been doing. You have made some big improvements in your choices and what you want, and what you expect, and what you need for yourself.

As always so proud of you.

Thank you, LadyShadow! You truly are the best!! You help me to feel better! It is so nice when someone is proud of you... it feels good!

This day is passing by and yes, I will have a good time tonight. Just a few more hours to get through.

Well, pizza and beer for one tonight. Guess it could always be worse!!

What happened to going out with the friends?

How did the guy react to not meeting for a date? I hope he would keep his distance at a concert (if you are stlll going)

I'm still going out to hear the band. I think this guy will be cool with me tonight (I hope).

Well, I survived Valentine's Day, as hard and as painful as it was.

I had fun at the band, and my new male friend was fine with me... he maintained the boundaries & was enjoyable to hang out with.

I am just glad that day is done and gone.

For all the lonely hearts out there, I know it can be brutal. I had a really rough time with it. I even told my new boss I was having a bad day because of it. He was very sympathetic and told me to have a glass of wine and watch a stupid movie after work, lol. What a sweetheart.