[hexonononox]

i am a 20 year old male and the longest relationship i've ever had was when i was 13 and that was for 6 months after that though i havent had one relationship to last longer than a month...it seems no one can handle my moods and i feel alone and helpless and i dont bother with relationships anymore because i know i will always get dumped...i'm losing that belief that "theres someone for everyone" it seems to me i cant generalize with the rest of society and i'm becoming a recluse. i hate rejection and i feel like dying when it happens i'm really starting to believe there are no real sincere people in the world help me understand please why this is like this?

[heidu]

There are sincere people in the world but they can be hard to find. Don't give up looking. I found I have to go thru alot of bad relationships and hurt but I get lucky and find one great person. Coming here helps me alot cause there are alot of really great sincere and caring people who come here.
I know what it feels like to feel alone and to wonder if you can ever find a friend or a relationship that won't hurt. Even the good ones hurt sometimes.
I can't give you a miracle cure or even explain why it is that way but I just wanted to let you know you are not alone in how you feel.
Heidu

[Zenobia]

Are you getting help for your moodswings? I know it has been difficult for my husband to deal with my moods. I didn't feel very sorry for him because I was hurting a heck of a lot more then he was so he should just stop his whining. Now that I am feeling better and am dealing with a teenage daughter and her new found hormones I understand a little bit of how he felt. He tells me that it is easier to deal with my moods when I tell him what is going on even if it is "I am feeling sad but I am not sure why." Then he knows that I am not upset with him. Otherwise he starts wondering what he has done to upset me even though my mood has nothing to do with him.
Take care,
Zen

<font color=green>You live, you learn. You love, you learn. You cry, you learn. You lose, you learn. You bleed, you learn. You scream, you learn.--Alanis Morissette

[DocJohn]

I think there's at least two things there that you could pay attention to... that you recognize you have mood swings which may have some effect on your relationships, and that there are a lot of eligible folks out there.

You can do something pro-active about your mood swings. You don't just have to accept them "as-is" and expect others to do the same. Personally, I can have them too and have found in some relationships, it's a problem. In others, it seems like no big deal. I think a lot of it has to do with the person you're with.

If it continues to be a problem, it might be a sign to focus a little more on the mood swings themselves, and find some relief from them through therapy or a with a combination of medications.