A Hole Was Punched In My Happy Little Universe

If it's a test of faith, then those aren't the dots on the page, that I would personally connect. You gave gratutude then a bump in the road came along. So, no I do struggle finding the coincidence.

Maybe the down time will bring you both other types of things you'll find you both enjoy?

It's more so based on a historical pattern that has occurred over time. The last time I was close to having my greatest dreams fulfilled, everything was suddenly snatched away from me. The same thing is happening now. I just feel like I have to struggle in life. We can find other things to do -- we're going out to eat tonight, for instance.

That is just generally the way life goes, though. Things are going well, and then you lose your job. Things get better and are going well again, and then a breakup happens. Things get better again, and then a health issue crops up. We just tend to give more weight and attention to the negative times. Not surprising that we do, but it’s not some unusual occurrence for life to be going well and then for something bad to happen.

Yeah I suppose so? Although I tend to have thought otherwise based on my specific prayers. I supposed God works in mysterious ways though and life's ups and downs cannot be helped.

Without getting into "the topic" as per guidelines, it's not uncommon to feel forsaken when it seems like curveball after curveball has been tossed one's way. That's the thing, though.

When those angry voices do rear their heads, what coping strategies do you use to fend them off? Are you going to be ok, tonight?

A dinner date sounds fantastic and I hope you truly enjoy your night.

I saw this posted and clicked on it and decided to post it here for you too golden_eye

TY. I missed your note last night. I was ok. Yes, I do have coping strategies. I suppose I am not supposed to go into them if they're at all religious? They are prayer-based and partially religious-based. I also yell at them and tell them to go away and leave. It all is effective.

We did have a wonderful night! TY.

TY!

UGH. I am beside myself right now. He is in even more pain than before and had to work today on his day off when he was supposed to rest today. He says he believes he's injured it further, but he cannot take time off from work or say no when they ask him to come in. This is a car dealership where they fire good people for no reason. The management has NO sympathy.

And now, the injury is starting to effect US, and so are my voices. This is all a disaster at the moment and I am not exaggerating.

Plus, he insists on getting tickets for a concert two weeks from now that requires us to walk everywhere. He is being VERY stubborn about it and wants me to be supportive of his decision when I feel it's a really stupid one.

I am not coping very well, and I am starting to unravel. We're having a terrible morning so far together.

I’d be very concerned about hearing voices as it appears medication isn’t working, it might need to be adjusted or changed. I’d talk to a therapist about getting to see pdoc or I’d talk to my regular GP. It has to be scary and frustrating but I don’t think need to just put up with it. Medical attention might be needed ASAP.

I’d stop worrying about his toe though. I am not saying you shouldn’t be supportive but this seems to be blown out of proportion. Why and how would it effect your relationship? It really shouldn’t

It’s concerning that if broken toe causes such barrage of issues and effects your relationship, what would happen if something medically serious happened to one of you if both?

He is a grown man. If he wants to go to work sick and can’t say no and is afraid to get fired, then it is what it is. I am not saying stop showing concerns but life doesn’t stop because he broke his toe. If he goes to work today, go do something else. If he wants to buy tickets, he can buy tickets but you don’t have to go if you think it’s stupid. Or maybe he’d feel better. It’s not like money for tickets come out of your joined budget and you are effected by it. He wants to waste it, he can go ahead.

If broken toe is too much to handle I’d be concerned about future of this relationship. What does your t say? About voices and am other things?

Don’t let his toe take away from burning concerns: hearing voices and not having pdoc (perhaps not having health insurance?)

It's not getting blown out of proportion -- he is in severe pain and sheer agony. And yes, it is effecting our relationship in a couple ways -- it's not a barrage of issues -- no. We only had a tough morning because of the issues it caused. It is not a tragedy and it is not life or death - no. It is a very unfortunate accident, and yes, it effects us both.

He is strong, I know this, and is a real trooper for going to work. But it was his choice, the career that he chose.

I know we could handle much bigger challenges together, if faced with that. I am not worried about that.

Yes, I will talk to my doctor about the voices, and maybe about increasing my dosage. It is my primary care doctor that I would need to see since I don't have a pdoc. She may insist that I get one and may not want to mess with the dosages herself. That is my guess.

Has he gone to a doctor to have his toe/foot X-rayed and looked at? Everyone is different, but I have broken toes a number of times, once quite badly, and it did not cause me severe pain or agony after the initial moment of breaking. He might want to make sure that it is not a break that requires serious treatment / crutches / a boot / whatever.

He went to ER initially and had X-rays. There seems to be one fracture. He's supposed to follow up with a specialist next week. I hope he does -- I will encourage him to. I think perhaps it's all the walking around at work that he must do for ten hours per day, six days a week. He is not getting any rest for his foot. :/ He was given a special boot to wear, but no crutches.

I would definitely encourage him to follow up. I am a very active person and always walked, hiked, climbed, etc on broken toes. The only activity I temporarily stopped was running. I may be wrong, but it does not strike me as typical to have that level of pain with what looks like a simple break.

Thanks, I will! Yes, he seems to believe he's injured it further. Based on what you've said, I'm tending to think so too. He needs a doctor.

I hope he will see a doctor and that you do too. I think getting a pdoc is a good idea as well.

Thanks. The problem is -- meds do not help, so it hardly matters.

Only the meds you've tried do not help. A pdoc may be able to help you determine what is really happening and give you different meds that do help.

I've already tried the few that I can stand. They are far too heavy and I cannot work on them. They make my brain foggy, and I refuse to take meds that make me gain weight. I will suffer through it.

Ok. I only went by what you said that’s a disaster and you can’t cope and are unraveling, so it did sound tragic and catastrophic to me and it seemed to be following situation with his toe and him buying tickets to a concert.

It seems that you both need to make medical needs a priority. You hearing voices and him being in much pain. Health needs to be a priority. I don’t know what your t thinks about voices but I think it’s serious. If it’s not occasional hallucinations and is persistent, then it’s serious. And he needs to see a specialist. ER is good for immediate help but it needs to be followed up. Hopefully it could get sorted

Yes -- medical needs do need to be a priority. My T is helpful with the voices -- she believes it's a PTSD reaction of sorts. I don't have hallucinations. What honestly helps the most is ignoring them and going about my business. They seem to disappear that way.

What do you mean you don’t have hallucinations? Hearing voices is one of the common auditory hallucination.
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I meant visual. I don't have visual hallucinations.

Oh ok. I didn’t say you did.

Either way, I tend to agree with my therapist that it may be related to a PTSD reaction. Hopefully it calms down soon. Like I was saying before, when I tell it to go away, and/or ignore it and just focus on what I am doing, it tends to leave.