[curley]

With so many members I hope someone has an answer that could realistically work. I have received good advise, but of course none of the answers were the ones I wanted. But since I am really reaching here, remember, I did say "realisticaly work"! OR if you cant do that, talk some damn sense into me.
Is there anything I can do to get someone back in my life when they have decided they dont want me around. Because of my addiction and my on it again, off it clean again life. My ex is totally against illegal drugs. But I guess I should mention that he would take someone elses perscription for pain killers and wakes up to a beer! Sounds pretty stupid for me to want back in that relationship. Maybe I dont. Maybe it is just the fact that I have never been the one who felt all the blame for the breakup is on me. We really did have a great relationship before I continued with my habit and he found out. Lying is not good anyway and that was bound to happen right? PLEASE comment

[Cyran0]

Two stupid questions. 1. Are you still using? 2. Have you apologized for the behavior?

If it was a good relationship, you may be able to talk things out, take things slow and begin to rebuild that trust. There's no guarantees but it's all you can really do. However, you can't do any of this if you're still using or can't bring yourself to apologize for the secrets, etc.

My two cents.

Be safe.

Cyran0

[chalmette70043]

(((((((((Curley)))))))))

sorry, wish i could support you more right now.

love ya
chalmette

[I_WMD]

Ice water,,,a bag of m&m"s,,,And awhole lot of distraction!!!!! It is better than a court order and forced group sessions and a little plastic cup you carry to the bathroom.

Now the other thing. I think you LOve yourself and the bird will light on your finger again . But if not ,,, you have at least won the worst battle .

[seeker1950]

Curly, you said, "My ex is totally against illegal drugs. But I guess I should mention that he would take someone elses perscription for pain killers and wakes up to a beer! Sounds pretty stupid for me to want back in that relationship."
I don't want to sound like a wet blanket here, but you do know that two "users" do not a happy couple make. It actually sounds like you need to focus on your own recovery and dismiss thoughs of reuniting with this man.
Patty

[Perna]

Stay in vague touch (at least keep an email address or phone number for him), clean up your life and get some stuff going that is good then invite him out to dinner. I'm talking 6 months or so, a nice job, place to live, a few interesting friends, etc., whatever you want your life to be like with/without him in it; get that as best you can (or on the way to that -- in school or with a job that has promotional possibilities, etc. -- some sort of 5 year (at least) "plan" for your life) and then try to incorporate him again :-)