suspended from work until further notice

The infraction was using profanity on the salesfloor. My coworker asked me where I went and I replied, "pee and ***** room," referring to restroom.

I've been at this company several years total. I had left and came back. I followed all the rules and acted professional until a few months ago (March). I suffered a mental breakdown from what happened at another company and had since screwed around and acted out just to distract myself. Nobody said anything to anyone about it until I recently said it to the wrong person (pee and ***** room).

Now I'm suspended from work until further notice. My supervisor documented it and sent it to employee relations asking them what to do about it. She'll call me when they reach a decision.

I'm sorry. It seems a bit exagerated to suspend you just for using profanity.

On the salesfloor?

Sorry it happened to you but I wonder if that was a culmination after all other acting out and screwing around since March. Otherwise you’d likely be just reprimanded or written up.

I'm sorry that happened to you

Divine1966, She doesn’t know about most of them. In fact, she only knows one other incident and I don’t remember what it was.

Other employees likely talk about your behavior. Management typically knows.

She said she wants to hear from them if it warrants a termination, so she definitely took me off the schedule for today. However, she also left the rest of my shifts on my schedule in case I keep my job.

She did say she was sorry for having to do this but customers could have heard and be offended. Therefore, her hands are tied. Company policy also said it's usually automatic termination for using profanity. She will reach out to me shortly.

It's just that I act out bc of what the fast food joint did to me. Now I wanna stop blaming that supervisor bc it obviously did me no good. There are a few things I did that's way worse that she didn't know about. Otherwise, I woulda gotten my consequences sooner.

Just wanna clarify: am I senior colleague?
She didn’t seem like she wanna let me go outright.

^oh sorry I just deleted my previous post.

By senior colleague, I don't mean the worker with old age. I mean, the worker who has worked for the company for a long time (I just don't know the right term for that). You have stated that you've been in the company for several years, so yeah you're a senior.

K thx. I was just wondering bc my consequence doesn’t seem very light.

Should it be in the context of your behavior over the past few months? I'm seeing an employee whose behavior is deteriorating and if it were me, I'd just fire you to prevent the inevitable cursing at a customer or similar.

So you're still blaming someone else. All of this including the past situation and your deteriorating behavior here is your bad attitude. Only you can change it. But instead of accepting responsibility and changing your behavior you continue to blame and be resentful. This is the consequences. You really need to talk about how you can take responsibility for yourself in therapy.

Well I’m definitely owning it now. I remember in my previous threads when I talked about emotionally devolving and calling coworkers mom and nurse. That was a few months ago and that was the beginning of my unprofessional behavior. Then I started doing other stuff like swearing 🤬 and making inappropriate jokes. I did these things bc I couldn’t cope with the incident at that fast food joint and wanted to distract myself from the hurt. I thought it was ok to act out bc of what happened at the fast food joint. I thought people would understand.

Now I know that the incident at the fast food had nothing to do with my current job and I should’ve moved on. I just hope the decision swings in my favor and I won’t ever behave like that again.

Would it be a good idea to send an email? Not only to her, but also to somehow have employee relations know about it.

The fast food joint did not do anything to you. You stalked your supervisor to the point she had to fire you. You came in on your days off and followed her around and, when she told you to stop, you did not stop. Your bad behavior is the problem. By continuing to act out and not learn from past mistakes, you have now been suspended from your other job. You are the only one to blame and you are the only one who can change your behavior. Anyone who acts that way will be fired because it is unacceptable. I encourage you to seek help from your therapist in how to take responsibility for your actions (stop pretending the fast food supervisor did something to you when you did something to her) and start acting professionally at work. Your supervisors have been incredibly lenient with you, but it sounds like they aren’t going to be letting things slide anymore. Most people who did the things you described on your other threads would have been fired a long time ago.

I know. The only reason I didn’t get consequence sooner is bc she didn’t know about half of what I did. I’m definitely gonna own it now and not blame others.

Ni, honestly i would wait til you hear from her. I don't think they will do much for you. It's best to wait.

Well, I'm sorry this happened but not surprised. Your behavior has been poor at work, and I'm sure many people noticed it. Then you used profanity on the sales floor even though you know it's a fireable offense. Here's the key Ruby: every time you break the rules, you suffer consequences. So maybe it is time to obey the rules regardless of what you see others do or your emotional state. So you are still upset about the other job; that is unfortunate, but still not going to excuse your behavior at this job. And it only leads your supervisor to question that if something upsets you again, will you do it again? If you cannot control your behavior, then there is no reason to give you another shot.

Seesaw

I’m just praying 🙏.

It doesn’t matter why you act out. Acting out on the job isn’t appropriate.

If you want to keep a job you need to behave.

You keep getting problems at different jobs: stalking your bosses, acting out, calling people strange things (moms and cats etc), crying on the job, now using bad language etc Keep working with professionals on improving your behavior in public and especially at work

Sorry that you are going through this. The first part of the story that stood out glaringly was the fact that they even needed to ask you where you were. The second was the profanity laced answer. You're lucky that didn't get written out as insubordination.

Yes for the past few months, I have been doing these things. I can’t keep blaming that fast food joint for my actions. I should’ve moved on so I wouldn’t end up acting out.

According to your posts, you have been acting out at work— in different ways—for years. Your acting out (stalking) is why you were fired at the fast food job. You also said you were previously fired from the job where you give out samples, although they re-hired you later. Potty talk, crying over spilled napkins, calling co-workers mom & nurse, showing up at work on your days off, stalking— they are all connected. Since you see a therapist, maybe you can work with them to figure out why you engage in these behaviors and how you can learn how to act professionally at work.