Abusive family

I haven’t often shared (anywhere) about my toxic and abusive family. When I have, I’ve nearly always received at least one “pull socks up” sort of reply. It stings especially from people in real life, who surely ... would have more intelligence. But, apparently, not. I receive, yet again, minimisation and invalidation.

Or maybe just a big fat zero.

Not surprisingly, this is very unhelpful to me.

I know this doesn’t give many details. I don’t need to be told that.

This post is pointless.



(Not about anyone on pc)

I'm sorry this happened to you Fuzzy.

I never got any real support until I came here for my horrendous upbringing; only once did I ever have a professional tell me that the way I was treated wasn't the way children should be treated.

Mostly people have either rapidly tried to change the subject, tried to joke me out of whatever I was saying; responded with hostility or disbelief; or made fun of me and accused me of making things up.

A lot of people have tried to rub my nose in how wonderful their own upbringing was -- going on and on and on and on and on about what saints all their relatives were to the point where it started to sound like what they were really saying was there must have been something horribly wrong with me for my family to treat me so horribly.

I hope you find peace someday. I hope I do too.

Sorry for everyone who had a hard time growing up. Sometimes I think people should need to take and get a license to prove they're going to be good parents before they have kids.

((((((( Ice ))))))

That’s very similar to the reaction I’ve received from some people too.

I just wrote my sister who yelled at me she’s done with this whole F’n family that I’d like to have a healthy sister relationship with her and maybe we can talk about recipes! I have to WikiHow to learn how to even have a healthy relationship.

If it’s impossible to repair anything with your real family, Fuzzy, you can find good friends and keep trying until you achieve healthy relationships.

What is wrong with people? Why don’t they bother to listen

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I believe both of you.

((((((( Bill3 )))))))

Thank you

Yes, same here. Otherwise it could be considered a reckless endangerment of a child.

I agree with you.

Thanks for replying to my post (((((( Ice )))))))

It really sucks that our families left us with injuries that most of us will ever be completely able to recover from!

It really does suck grrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I could not agree more. But try and tell the public that.

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I haven't read all the posts here, I have many issues with my own family. I find myself talking about it to people, and they just don't understand. It's my story I'll share, but I was abused, ignored and neglected. It did do a lot of damage. It's hard to forgive, if I really did forgive. I think I did. But I just don't forget. It's like a vicious cycle for me, to bring up my past, to some friend that I trust. Everyone's experience is so different. It really does hurt when no one identifies with us. Depression is an awful thing to live with. I'm glad you are opening up, and do this at your own pace Fuzzy. We will try to help you.

Our family can have such an impact on our life... I'm sorry for everyone who has suffered.

A justification, but triggering;

Prayers for love and peace for all.

(((((((( Ice ))))))))

I don’t think there is any “justification” for abuse. Especially abuse of children.

Thanks to all who replied to my post.....

I agree Fuzzy.

I agree. ((((((( Ice )))))))

And I’m requesting no more replies to this thread.

Thank you to all, in advance, for respecting my request.