I am loosing the battle

My h went from asking for divorce, to comfirming his request the following day, to telling our 8 y old that we weren't getting divorce, to telling we we still are, to telling me he wants a divorce because he knows he cannot make me happy and I would be happier with somebody else (guilt - guilt) to trying to be sweet, to inviting me to the movies, to hugging and kissing in front of the kids (yikes! didn't want to but felt bad for the kids so I did) to now acting as if we weren't getting divorce.
So far, I have not responded to his caressing, only when he does it in front of the kids. I don't push him off (afraid) but don't respond.

What do I do? I am too scare to comfornt him, but I sure don't want to play games.

The fear is greater than the desire to get it done and over with.

gab
<div class="foot">(Edited by gloria on 08/02/04 03:40 PM.)</div>

Believe me I know exactly how you feel, especially when you wrote "the fear is greater than the desire." But I don't know if I am even the right person to be able to give you any advice, considering my situation. I have been trying to gain some kind of inner strength throughout all of this and also trying to separate my emotions from the situation. I have found I can think a lot more clearly when I do that. But, if you are really afraid of how he will react, please just be careful. I don't really know if any of this was helpful, but I wanted you to know that there is someone who understands how you feel. Hang in there, try to decide what you want and work on making a plan to get strong enough to carry it out.

Hi Gab,
I am so sorry for you. Big hug to you. Is it possible to tell him not to act in a way that will confuse the kids? Have you discussed how you will tell the kids. The ideal situation is if you can have a friendly divorce for the sake of the kids. All I can recommend is discussing it with him about how to handle this for the kids. I am again sorry for you and send a dose of strength your way.
Big hugg...Sesquix

Read my new posting called "crazy rollacoaster" under repationships and communication.

This is overwhelming.

gab