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Aug 28, 2019, 01:29 PM
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Hello everyone, I'm here to get some advice on a variety of things. I work at a behavioral health hospital in the Western US and have a great career that is fulfilling and exciting. I've worked with the developmentally disabled population for almost 30 yrs. My work is what sustains me. My relationship not so much. My girlfriend suffers from PTSD and although I am aware of this condition and work closely every day with people who suffer from similar issues. I really dislike coming home to work if you know what I mean.
I make a good living and should at 57 be able to do what I want when I want. But I am not able to. Either I need to grow a set and speak up and end the relationship. Or accept my fate.But the guilt is horrible. Any advice? Happy to be here thanks for whatever clarity provided. |
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Aug 28, 2019, 05:25 PM
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Hi Hdfatboybob1 welcome to Psych Central. That is definitely a challenge in that while you enjoy helping people in your work, when you walk away from that you need a break where you can interact with someone that doesn't have the same challenges/problems you deal with all day long at work. I am sure you care about your partner, don't want to hurt your partner either but the relationship has gotten too much for you. It's not easy to live with someone who struggles with mental health challenges.
Last edited by Open Eyes; Aug 28, 2019 at 06:33 PM. |
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Aug 28, 2019, 05:38 PM
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Hello Hdfatboybob: Since this is your first post, here on PC, welcome to Psych Central.
 From what you wrote, it sounds as though you may be contemplating separation & / or divorce. Here's a link to the Divorce & Separation sub-forum here on PC: https://psychcentralforums.com/divorce-and-separation/ And then here are links to 7 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may be of some help: How Does PTSD Affect Relationships? Understanding PTSD and its Effects on Marriage You, Me and PTSD: Relationships with Partners Who Have Suffered Trauma | Partners in Wellness Are You Ready For Divorce? 8 Questions You Should Answer https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-di...men-and-women/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/want-a...dium=popular17 https://psychcentral.com/lib/when-on...-other-doesnt/ I hope you find PC to be of benefit. 
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Aug 29, 2019, 01:19 PM
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I thank you all for your robust and helpful response. I believe this will help me gain the tools necessary to do something about my situation. This site is so cool. I've been receiving the newsletter for about a year now and I find the articles are well written and very informative. Happy to be a part of this.
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