[Bat_Orchid90]

I have never had a problem w video games or anything like it. I grew up playing on dif consoles, and have games on my phone as well. But the guy I’ve been dating has an obsession… and It’s just exhausting. People telling me “ well it could be worse! He could be out cheating! “ ….. if you have to eat sleep breathe a game at home AND in public, neglect responsibilities, friends, family and your own personal hygiene, you have a PROBLEM. And I didn’t realize it was that bad at first. Or I was listening to those people saying “ it’s just an outlet! Thats how he decompresses probably!” But if you cant go to dinner without playing on your phone, go for a walk, drive to the grocery store… if the first thing you do when you wake up and last thing before bed is play these games. Huff, mope, roll your eyes when I ask if we can watch a movie together.. or he’ll play the movie in the background while having the game playing on a dif screen…. Smh I’m done w the relationship… no advice needed…I don’t want to continue being the mistress to his digital world….I just wanted to vent…it’s just frustrating to know someone could care so much about a game but lead you on like they were interested in you for YOU…..

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[divine1966]

I hear you. Smart move to end it.

Honestly it’s not different than when someone chooses to get high or drunk on a regular basis or work 24/7 (not because of financial need) or play sports every free minute or gamble etc etc. Anything not in moderation makes people unavailable for healthy relationship. The only way they can maintain relationships if their partners put up with their addictions. But no one has to put up with this.

They either have to seek serious help or don’t engage in serious relationships. Or maybe they can find someone just as unhealthy as them and leave the rest of us alone.

Stay strong.

[Marilyn2016]

Totally hear your frustration and it sounds legit to me. Questions: have you tried viewing this from his perspective, maybe try playing his games to show him that you would at least like to chat about the same stuff? Maybe it really is the only me time he has? I always fall for gamers and other nerds, because they value fun, and maybe he feels the same way...no idea, but try a game? Lol jk your call. I would. Some are incredible stress relief!!

[Bat_Orchid90]

Originally Posted by Marilyn2016

Totally hear your frustration and it sounds legit to me. Questions: have you tried viewing this from his perspective, maybe try playing his games to show him that you would at least like to chat about the same stuff? Maybe it really is the only me time he has? I always fall for gamers and other nerds, because they value fun, and maybe he feels the same way...no idea, but try a game? Lol jk your call. I would. Some are incredible stress relief!!

I have tried but it’s all he does. And at the end of the day theyre all single player games unless i downloaded all the same stuff to my phone /computer which i dont wanna do.

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[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Marilyn2016

Totally hear your frustration and it sounds legit to me. Questions: have you tried viewing this from his perspective, maybe try playing his games to show him that you would at least like to chat about the same stuff? Maybe it really is the only me time he has? I always fall for gamers and other nerds, because they value fun, and maybe he feels the same way...no idea, but try a game? Lol jk your call. I would. Some are incredible stress relief!!

She said that he repeatedly chooses gaming over spending time with her, his hygiene, his responsibilities, his family, his friends etc It doesn’t sound like him just needing some “me” time. It’s literally all he does: has “me” time gaming. It sounds as gaming took over his life.

[Rive.]

You are right, it can become an obsession and addiction. In such a relationship you would always be second best. Games first, partner second. If he is not willing to change, why would you willingly subject yourself to such emotional neglect.

[poshgirl]

Sounds like an addiction/obsession. He obviously gets a buzz from it, at the expense of everything normal in his life.

Must be serious if personal hygiene has been replaced by gaming. If he won't detox then move on!

[Bill3]

Gaming disorder is included in the International Classification of Diseases:

Addictive behaviours: Gaming disorder

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Bill3

Gaming disorder is included in the International Classification of Diseases:

Addictive behaviours: Gaming disorder