Do i go see him?

So as most know my guy friend attempted the big S. last thursday. he went into the hospital and got out late monday. i saw him on wednesday cause he needed in the apartment. His mom invited me to come to their house next weekend for a visit. A one last visit before i leave, i also think its a way for his mom to say thanks for being there for her son. But the problem is my mom really doesn't want me to go and i brought it up in my counseling session today and my counselor doesn't want me to go either although both of them say i get to decide either way. I don't want my mom mad at me or anything for going i don't want her to be upset or anything like that but this is something i have to do for me. The last time he got out of the hospital we were able to spend many days together to build our relationship back up and we are not able to do that this time. I think i also want to go because its still not real that he is okay. i want to talk to him like we used to, to be the friends that we used to be (even though i know that might never happen) just wanted all of your thoughts. thanks

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I don't know the particulars of your relationship with your guy-friend. But I had a good friend attempt Suicide before. I just gave her an ear when she wanted one. For you I can see where you want to know how he is and need some kind of closure to put it behind you, or you might feel like it is always there. Maybe discuss reasons they don't want you to visit, or make it a short visit and have a friend drive with you for support. Good luck.

Can I ask what reasons your T gave for not going?

Most important I am glad that your friend got the help he needs and that he is OK, or at least on his way to being OK now.

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I'm with Dex why did your T say he didn't wish you to go... because it should be IN YOUR BEST INTEREST what your T says, having nothing to do with your T, right?

My T used to never "tell" me his wishes or which side he was on and allowed me to make my own decisions, but realized, after many ooops on my part, and after my pleading ... that I need his input. With that said, I also need to not impeach him and what he says and take it for what it is: GOOD ADVICE with my best interest in mind.

If you don't go and see him, can you call and tell him your T doesn't think you're up to coming by? (Blame it on your T.) And talk to him about how you are so glad that.... however you want to put it... that he's still alive...?

I would also want to go and see my friend. I would regret if I avoided seeing him. I would also like to know your T's reasons for not wanting you to go ... (((((((((((((((collegefriend)))))))))))))))

You decide, it is totally your call. Just think of a few things before you decide:

1- Are you doing this for you? How would this affect you, meaning feelings, stability, mental health?

2- Are you putting yourself first? Remember that you have to take care of yourself before you can trully care for others.

3- Are you going to be OK afterwords? And if you aren't, is it worth it?

Listen to your heart and brain, then go for what is best for you.

gab

sorry i haven't replied sooner. Okay T doesn't want me to go because she believes that S is still not stable, that we don't know how he is going to react when i come and visit and stay the night. my T also thinks gathering from what i told her that S might have some co dependency issues ( BUt i don't know cause he is wanting to move but maybe he is doing this to try and get back at me for going to florida BUT he has told me to go to florida) Anyways, I feel like i need to go because it will be the last time i will see him for 4 and half months. I think going will also put a closuer to the situation, i mean i know it will always be in my mind, but going to visit and knowing that he is surviving will mean the world to me in my heart. I don't think i will be upset after visiting (prolly i will cause again i won't see him for a long time) BUt i won't be upset b/c of the situation. When i saw him last week i actually felt better than i had since the week before. But im sorry this is so confusing and i just want to thank everyone for listening to my depressing stories.

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