[Emmeline]

Hi there, I've been going out with my bf for about three months now-and he's my first bf lol and basically everything has been going alright but for some reason I get this feeling that he doesn't like me...well, what I mean is that it doesn't really feel like it-at least to me it doesn't.

I just always get the impression that the only reason he went out with me is because he just wants a girl friend cause all his guy friends have one. Because in the past when we were friends he told me how 'lonely' he felt and how it felt like to him that all his guy friends were rubbing it in his face that they had girl friends.

So..basically...how do I know that he likes me for me and isn't just using me you know? and I know some people will go, 'you'll know cause he'll say he loves you,' well sad to say he hasn't even said 'I love you' to me yet. lol

Another thing that makes me think he doesn't like me is that he stopped chatting with me. We used to chat almost everyday and now we don't And what's weird is that I see that he's online it's just that he never chat's with me. Also whenever we make plans to hang out, he breaks his plans and says that he can't. He never gives me a reason..he just says he can't! I honestly don't know what's going on! Now I'm new to this 'teen relationship' thing and I'm just wondering do we have a problem and should I talk to him about it?

[gimmeice]

(((((((((((((((( Emmeline )))))))))))))))))))))))))
I think talking to him is a good idea, you should be able to find out if there is a problem with a nice talk. Good luck

[pachyderm]

> I just always get the impression that the only reason he went out with me is because he just wants a girl friend cause all his guy friends
> have one.

That can be a good start! Now you can convince him he made the right choice.

[Perna]

When did you decide he wasn't just dating you but was your boyfriend? Did he ever say anything along the lines, "let's be boyfriend/girlfriend"? It could just be he likes having someone to date occasionally and has never thought along the lines that you are his "girlfriend" just that he can say, "See, I date, too."

When I was in college there was a guy who asked me on the most wonderful dates (all day canoeing trips with fun groups he belonged to, etc.) but he did it a total of about 3 times in 2 years. He never kissed me or anything but when we were together we had a marvelous time for like 12 hours and enjoyed one another very much! I never figured it out. LOL

I would just casually ask him, next time you're together, maybe in a slightly teasing fashion, why he never likes to chat anymore? See if you can learn anything.

[Emmeline]

Thanks, I'll try that ^-^ But I'm terrified he might take it the wrong way you know? I mean, last time during school I was just curious and wanted to know if he liked me and when I asked him, 'Do you like me?' he freaked out and went, 'What? Why would you ask that? I like you! Why? What's wrong?!' And through out the whole entire day he was freaking out asking me over and over again what was wrong.

And when I asked him I didn't say it all dramatic or like I was upset..I actually tried to make it into a joke so he wouldn't freak out but obviously it had the opposite effect on him lol Is there someway I could start the conversation and talk to him about it without sounding like I'm a drama queen or an annoying girlfriend? ^-^

[wounded1]

((((Emmeline)))) dating is soooo hard...whether you're a teen or an adult!

If you're comfortable enough, I think you should tell him how YOU feel, although I think it's a little soon to talk about "love". Guys are easily freaked out by that word, not matter how old they are. Tell him how much you like him, that you miss chatting and hanging out, and see what his response is. If he's "into you", he'll let you know. I've found guys don't respond well to the pressure of the "do you like/love me" question very well....

Good luck, keep us posted!!!

[Behindthemoon]

i dont want to emphsize on age but when you are very young its very common that you will get bored very soon. Get bored of the person and relationship.

well, it is cool to have a girl-friend ...for everyone it is especially around his age. Yet i think he is not old enough to be a bad guy to use you. No worry. And chatting to you everyday is a lot, if not too much.

Girls and boys are actully looking for different things in relationship in your age i think.

Anyway take care

[BrnEyedGrl]

You can easily find out if a guy likes you....just stop calling him, and next time he gets on the computer, you get off. I know it sounds weird but the less interested (but nice) you seem, the more the guy will want to be with you....that is IF he is interested!!!!

Just be yourself, be nice, but don't go out of your way trying to pull him closer. You should know in a day or two for sure!!!

I know how hard it is sometimes, keep smilin and good luck!!!