People getting mad because youÂ’re nice to them

I might get that people may fail to appreciate when someoneÂ’s nice to them, but I donÂ’t understand why they actually have to get mad. Every time IÂ’m nice to someone or do nice things, they go psycho. Like the supervisor at ArbyÂ’s who got mad that I liked her and thought so highly of her.

More recently, today, I was on drive thru at McDonald’s and a customer ordered 2 sandwiches, 2 hash browns, and 2 drinks separately. I asked her if she wanted to make those a meal. She said not really. I then explained she’s getting the exact same thing but it cost less. She then went off on me saying “I don’t care do whatever! That’s all I want.” I said sorry I was just being nice.

Ok so I could do whatever was basically what she said, but i donÂ’t know why she got to get angry. Is it wrong to be nice? Or maybe I have bad luck because other people can do nice things and people appreciate it. Idk but after ArbyÂ’s, this incident, and lots of other incidents, IÂ’m beginning to think maybe people all behave irrationally.

In regards to this particular woman, the one who said "I don't care, do whatever, but this is what I want," she was probably having a bad day and lost her patience. Try not to take it personally.

She was rude but maybe she was in a rush and did not want to hear an explanation after she already said no. Working in a customer service or in any job with people we got to be flexible and have rather thick skin.

As about Arby’s supervisor it’s been discussed many times that you weren’t nice but inappropriate.

Continue working on improving ruby. You are doing good job keeping up a job and trying to understand what’s right and what’s wrong

I think the second woman was just being unintentionally rude - like misdirected annoyance because of something else that happened in her day.

As for your supervisor I think there's a lot more to the story than just that if I recall correctly there was a lot going on.

Every social rules I've learned in life turned out to be false. Maybe in reality, people actually do get mad when you're nice to them the vast majority of times. And people almost never appreciates when someone gives a rats @ss about them and treats them kindly. It's just that I've always learned the opposite is true so now I have to unlearn it. See how all this is counterintuitive? It all defies common sense.

Sadly you are incorrect. People mostly appreciate being treated nicely

I've yet to encounter such a person. Besides the Arby's incident and the more recent one I described at McDonald's, there were too many other incidents.

I was in the middle of lunch at Applebees (before the pandemic) and two ladies was just being seated by the host. They requested a booth and there were no booths open. I just happen to be occupying a booth by myself, so I gave my booth up for them.

I didn't even get a thank you. They acted snobby and said they'd take my booth if it's clean. Like seriously?

And btw, if it weren't so busy at McDonald's and if I didn't have my GM helping me cope, I doubt I'd ever get over the customer being so rude. If people mostly appreciates being treated nicely, then either this particular customer isn't "people" or I'm having bad luck.

She said to do whatever I want but she just wants her food, but for christ sake her tone was rude and she isn't even the only one. Some people just have bad attitude in general.

I agree some people are nasty. Yet some are nice. That’s just how it goes

Do not take it personally, it sounds like people in your vicinity have bad days, that make them irritable. My sisters are the same. Just take it slow and keep loving yourself, and do not dwell on it when people say and do these things.

You were not nice to your supervisor you were harassing her and stalking her. You know that.

As for the woman at McDonald’s she was probably having a bad day. Don’t take it personally.

Ruby, as others pointed out you stalked your former supervisor. As for the woman at McDonald's sounds like she was short on time and patience. Try to let it go. It was about her, not you.

In the first scenario with the supervisor at Arby's. We've explained why she acted that way. You creeped her out. As for the woman at McDonald's, she may have just been having a bad day or was in a hurry. It is also possible that you took her tone the wrong way or she said it in a way that mad her sound angry when she really wasn't. As for the scenario where you gave up your booth, that was actually very polite. In that case, sounds like the two people were just ungrateful. I know people like that.