[Willow]

This is the most depressing topic on the whole forum for me. I am torturing myself coming in here and trying to think about it

It's a wild world, but someone's gotta ride it!

[splash]

Hi willow,

I think people come back to things that "torture" them because of a need to overcome their "torture" or to accomplish something. I'm kind of in a similar situation, being single and feeling like I don't fit in this world of "couples". I happen to think it's because I'm ugly and not very desirable, but that's beside the point.

I saw your website. Very nice. I like it. (I'm also an INFJ, btw.) And, I was a graphic designer in a former work life. We have a lot in common.

I hope the weather's nice where you are. Take care, willow.

splash

[bptoo]

Someday you'll come in here, the lightbulb will come on, and you'll find some answers. Stranger things have happened...

Don't give up hope.

"A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart."

[Willow]

Good to see you Splash. I see you on the wed. chat when I can get there. We do have a lot in common, don't we? Thanks for visiting my web site. I'm not sure they are accurate about the rarity of INFJs in the world. I run into others all the time!

I do have a tendency to gravitate toward the things that prick me. I can't leave them alone because I have this overwhelming urge to grow and learn.

So... how do you get your relational needs met? I'm trying to build a network of friends. Hard to do for a social phobe, but it's coming along at a consistent crawl.

It's a wild world, but someone's gotta ride it!

[Willow]

(((Beep)))
You're a good friend

I don't think I can give up hope. Although I lie about it sometimes. I just told the guy I like yesterday that I had given up. I have to tell him today I lied! I'll have to tell him something like... maybe we can be alone together.

It's a wild world, but someone's gotta ride it!

[splash]

hi Willow,

I don't think I ever get my "relational needs" met, but I do believe that having a few good friends can do wonders. I'm not particularly superclose to any one person, and I'm by no means a social butterfly. I'm glad to have the people in my life. That's about all I can ask for at this point.

splash

Tip: Never have a clown put on your makeup (unless, of course, you want to look like a clown).

[jennie]

i think your coping strategy, information seeking behavior, is beneficial. just don't overwhelm yourself... (((Huggs)))

[Willow]

((((Hugs))))
Thanks Bugg

It's a wild world, but someone's gotta ride it!