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Every since being diagnosed with mental health issues in my late 40s (anxiety and depression--I also have diagnosis that were "put into" my VA health record of panic disorder (I have experienced this on and off) and in 2018 "bipolar II in full remission" was entered--though I have considered the possibility since coming to PC in 2016 and sometimes ask my therapists and psychiatrists about it. Anyways, I have had times in my life when I am talkative/energized and times I have been depressed. I am still unsure if I am bipolar, I say this only to provide some background to the discussion.
I have always felt like there are some mental health diagnosis that I feel unsure about and I think sometimes people can be misdiagnosed--especially when done over a short period of time. Plus I have the impression that some providers just look at patient's former diagnosis and go with that ![]() ![]() Anyways, relationships are complex and it can be hard to sort out where behaviors are coming from. I do a whole lot of listening to my husband now. There is no doubt that he is much more talkative than I am now and when he has asked if he is too talkative--I have said it is OK--my POV is that a good partner tries to be a good listener. Not that I am never talkative. I still can be. I also have a problem with restating the same thing sometimes. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Hi @TunedOut,
thanks for sharing! I can relate: Any diagnosis can help as much as hinder us. It can be a relieve, as in I really have issues and I am not imaganing... It can free us somewhat. It can help our family and friend to understand us in someway. But it can also feel like a container. People put you in and dont let you out. I was diagnoses with Borderline, although the diagnosis changed later, I remember moments when I felt my boyfriend was beeing extra calm in a fight and cept telling how he was affraid I was gonna hit him, although nothing of the sort ever happend. I can relate that it can feel like a provocation when a spouse refers to you medication or diagnosis. Can you talk to him? Ask why he behaves this why? And tell him how you feel about it? |
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Maybe you are more talkative/excited when you feel less depressed? If your husband is used to you being depressed as a normal state of affairs, then when you seem happy, it may seem like something's wrong even though it is a sign that things are going well! I would be very annoyed to have someone asking me if I took my meds because I seemed more talkative than usual but another part of me would worry that he saw something I didn't see. Making an appointment with your old therapist sounds like a great idea because you can get another take on it.
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