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#176
Apr 20, 2021, 05:11 AM
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He probably thinks this is just the matter of time before you let him back in. This back and forth has been happening from before you two were even married so maybe he doesn’t think it’s over. Just another turn and twist in your relationship’s dynamics. I am actually sure he thinks it’s temporary set back.
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#177
Apr 20, 2021, 05:16 AM
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And yes, I changed my tune in one day. But it wasn't really in one day. It was in the last two months, and it was already building to this point. He does think it's just temporary because he's in shock. It hasn't sunken in yet that I truly mean it. It's also because he hasn't listened to a single word I've said over the last 2 months, he's ignored my expressions of serious doubt, and he's believed only what he wanted to believe. He did this to himself.
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#178
Apr 20, 2021, 05:21 AM
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What I do NOT understand is when he got me on the phone yesterday and when I explained I cannot live in constant doubt of him, with constant worry and fear, he said "I get it". THEN he STILL proceeded to send me lengthy texts, all about how much he misses me and can't live without me.
I am also getting the "life isn't worth living anymore" speech. He's not suicidal, I know this. He's just expressing to me his depression about our breakup. But still, it's more manipulation.
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#179
Apr 20, 2021, 05:41 AM
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AND, he's depressed because once again, he's lost control of me. Once again, this is all about power and control over me.
I feel he wanted to get back together simply so that he can be the one to walk away eventually, so that he has all the control and power. This was never going to work, given my mistrust of him, and deep inside, he must know this.
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#180
Apr 20, 2021, 07:05 AM
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Formerly, four years ago, I clung to a relationship gone awry because I did not have anything else to hold onto in my life. I feel my husband is doing the same thing yet does not realize this. Our relationship has run its course, and he refuses to acknowledge it.
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#181
Apr 20, 2021, 11:01 AM
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He is using one of his standard tools: emotional blackmail.
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#182
Apr 20, 2021, 11:25 AM
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"Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#183
Apr 20, 2021, 03:29 PM
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I feel very... indifferent to him. I've finally crossed a threshold to indifference. What I was sad about today was seeing the reality.
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#184
Apr 20, 2021, 04:01 PM
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Did I tell you that on top of EVERYTHING else, my husband has a sexual dysfunction? He cannot keep it going for too long and has to touch himself to finish. The icing on the cake. AND he sexually neglected me!
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#185
Apr 21, 2021, 05:45 AM
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Ok, maybe I am not indifferent yet - apparently I am still angry at him over the affair - I let loose on him last night about it, saying how could he say he loves me after chasing some other woman. I am not over it. I told him not to contact me.
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"Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; Apr 21, 2021 at 06:31 AM. |
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