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Aug 08, 2021, 04:07 PM
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I've caught myself acting like a d**k towards others just to provoke them and make them despise me. And then I have a reason to fight them back. What is up with that?
I've struggled with NPD traits a lot. And I've been bullied and devalued for years. Now things got much better and I'm doing fine since 4-5 years. Though it seems like I'm looking for some new enemies when things are good and calm. It's interesting... any thoughts? |
 leomama
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#2
Aug 09, 2021, 05:51 PM
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I would advise counseling if you want to go that route.
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#3
Aug 10, 2021, 03:43 AM
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Provoking is usually done as a way to experience power. This is what bullies do which is all about their desire to have power over another’s emotions. It’s self serving and noticing it in yourself means self awareness which is important to self understanding and self growth.
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#4
Aug 10, 2021, 06:18 AM
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I would request you to take a closer look at your motivation behind this action. Sometimes we provoke a reaction in others because we want to clear the air or because we perceive the other person isn't confronting an issue. Do you have a straightforward personality and like to challenge others? You may read the Enneagram 8 type personality and see if it resonates with you. If you are certain that this is not your personality, but a disorder, then therapy is a good course of action.
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#5
Aug 10, 2021, 06:45 AM
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Your insight is remarkable. You have the power to stop engaging in that behavior because you spotted it. |
| Werewoman
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#6
Aug 10, 2021, 03:43 PM
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#7
Aug 10, 2021, 04:33 PM
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So Sorry for what is going on! Please Do not give up!
  Hugs. i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters that you may want to explore this behavior perhaps with a therapist. It is good that you're acknowledging this because it means that you can start working on it. Do not let this realization discourage you but rather take it as a start for a better way of Life. So Sorry if this post isn't really Helpful but i Hope things will improve really soon for everyone. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @BigBubba, Your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!     
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#8
Aug 11, 2021, 02:15 PM
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Do you want to be like them? |
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#9
Aug 12, 2021, 05:08 PM
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| Werewoman
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#10
Aug 12, 2021, 05:57 PM
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Well, you (general you) can’t control how others behave.
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#11
Aug 12, 2021, 06:23 PM
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We may have tendencies. We also have free will.
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#12
Aug 13, 2021, 01:16 PM
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Why do you think you like bullying people so much? What reward do you feel after you publicly humiliate someone? |
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Aug 13, 2021, 01:22 PM
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What do I feel?.. I feel they may feel what I felt for quite some time in the past. Its pretty common that victims make the worst villains. |
| Werewoman
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