No man for three months

I stopped dating about three months ago and feel great! I am really busy now and am doing better than before. I don't know my reasons to pursue abusive men, but I was attracted to them. Now, I'm busy with work and thinking about pursuing a grad degree. I feel good about myself again. I wasted my time and energy with men who could care less about me. What a waste of my life! But, now, I feel productive. My pursuit of writing well is a challenge for me. It is a time-consuming and productive goal. I will keep doing my best to learn how to write well until I can write professionally. I am writing this to tell others not to waste time on people who don't care about you, instead focus on yourself. I finally did after people kept telling me to do so. Thank you!

I love this, bpforever!

I really love this too! And it's where I am at as well. You could say I used to be the doorknob that gave everyone a turn. Until I learned more about self-respect and self-worth. It's been over a month now since the last relationship disaster and I'm loving being single. I remember how I changed my sleep schedule for her, I'd stay up to 5 am sometimes because she was awake all night. And now my sleep routine is a lot healthier. I get to actually have time for myself and not be yelled at or made to feel guilt or shame for it. I was hired as a photographer, a dream come true! I posted a poem in a FB group and it received 57 likes and was reposted. I have more energy and feel more alive than I have in a year. I'm smiling again. It's great being a hard-working, independent person. I used to pour all my love into toxic and abusive friends and partners, now I pour it into myself and I'm starting to blossom. It's AMAZING to see this in you too and I am so happy for you! I wish you so much luck and success and happiness with everything you are pursuing and working on.

This was lovely to read cinnamonsun, I am so happy for you!

Two men from my past have kept texting me and writing me on social media. But, I have been ignoring them. One of them got mad and blocked me. Well, I'm glad since he always told me to make more money or live near him to save money. He was a complete jerk. The other man is almost twenty years younger than me. I have never met him but he keeps bugging me. But, I'm sure he will find someone his age hopefully soon. Thus, they are both out of my hair. I'm happy about this. Finally, I can be free of men who don't really care about me. I hope to remain free of men. I have so many things to do now that I don't even worry about men anymore.

The man unblocked me and wrote me again! WTF! So, I deleted the app and hopefully he won't ever write me again. I told him I was too busy and going to apply to grad school. He kept asking me if I was going to grad school to make more money. I had enough of this nonsense and just got rid of the app. I don't need a man who keeps asking me to earn more money. He does not make much money himself. I don't know why he keeps telling me to earn more money. Why doesn't he earn more money himself? He is always telling me to do this or that. I don't need a dictator in my life. I need a friend but not a friend like him. I feel good that I got rid of the app and him as well. Now, I won't ever have to hear him telling me to do things I don't want to hear. I don't know why I let him talk to me this way. I should have let him go sooner. Sometimes, I don't know how to set limits or boundaries and people just walk all over me like a rug. At least, I figured him out finally. It's a good feeling to know that I don't really need abusive men in my life telling me what to do anymore. I'm finally standing up for myself.

What on earth? This is when my sass would have come out and told him to go make more money and mind his own life.

I'm proud of you! Look at you go!