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I'm at work and told friend I cannot respond to emails until I finish work, got notifications on phone that she's sent me several emails -after I told her that I can't respond to emails until I have finished work
I can get onto emails on my phone, but if I respond to her email messages while I'm working, she will just send more than she does if I don't respond until I can after work Is it unreasonable that I don't respond at all to her while I'm working? |
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#2
It's absolutely reasonable not to answer until you're ready. If your friend has been told already, then they must expect you to wait until you're available
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#3
You aren’t obligated to respond to anything not work related while at work. Emails isn’t anything warranting immediate response. I don’t think your friend shouldn’t email you, you just don’t have to respond until later
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Your friend has to learn to respect your / other people's boundaries!
You already informed her you can't check emails. So, if she decides to still keep sending emails, it's on her. You don't have to respond to her at all. |
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#5
Of course not, you are totally within your rights to not answer during work. A very healthy boundary. If your friend continues to intrude after telling her you are not available, you may need to pull back from the friendship
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#6
I don’t think sending emails at random times is intruding. People get to them when they can. It’s not the same as texts. I never pay attention what exact time email arrived. I respond when I can or when I check it.,
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She doesn't have my mobile number, partly cause I can't respond to international texts, but also I am worried she will flood me with texts, even when I need to be asleep
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No, it's totally fine to reply to emails after work, even though your friend sent them during your working hours, like the other comments above said. You've told her you can't reply until after work, so she's probably not expecting you to reply until after work. It's okay.
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#9
Maybe it’d be helpful to look at your phone settings and mute her? I think it’s possible to do this just for one person, or at least mute all alerts while you’re busy.
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so apparently her boyfriend has a family emergency, and she thinks she should be his priority above the emergency .........
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As I thought, I'm apparently the "bad guy" now for pointing out emergency takes priority .....
She's being like "I'm tired of this I'm tired of that" seems she thinks I'm invalidating her by pointing out emergencies take priority ..... |
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#12
Sounds like this person causes more harm than good in your life. May be a good time to reconsider the friendship.
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