My husband took my nsme off our joint account w/o my consent, can he do that?

Jesyka in the UK we have a place called Citizens Advice, it’s a free place to go and get information and advice on legal matters (not necessarily with a solicitor but sometimes) is there anything like this in the US? Maybe American members know somewhere?

I think you’re probably right that you won’t be able to be entitled to be added to his account but in the event you do get an income either job or benefits it would be wise to open an account just in your name to have independence.

if we was in the same country, i'd give my spare bedroom to you, currently a storage room, i could squeeze in there and if you was okay with cats, the smaller room could of been set up so you have somewhere safe

What benefits?

Thanks for the info. I’ll look into that. Hopefully I’ll br able to find a decent job that won’t expect me to learn everything in less than a week.

not sure how it works over there for if someone's out of work, if they get the equivalent of disability payments or job seekers allowance or anything like that

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I found this page with some options for legal assistance. I also think some law schools conduct legal clinics for people that can't afford a lawyer. If there is a law school near you, you could see if they offer something.

Willow, in the US, probably the most common benefit is unemployment insurance. To receive that, you have to have worked and paid into the system for a certain amount of time. The circumstances of why you left your job also determine if you qualify. Cash benefits are very limited and generally go to people with children for strict time limits. There is SNAP, which provides a soft of debit card for food purchases. You have to apply and meet certain requirements.

Jesyka - it seems like most counties have a social services office that can help you find out what you might qualify for and how to apply. I would say going there and also to whatever legal aid option might be available to you would be two important steps.

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Originally Posted by jesyka I I have called those places in the past & they’re always full! I’m afraid he’ll end up leaving me with nothing. I have no money to pay a lawyer & no one can or will help me. If I’m lucky, I could couch surf between friends houses.

Even if the shelter is full they should be able to provide you with resources you can contact.

Your husband would have to pay alimony and would have to split whatever value your property. Is with you. Check what your state laws say. If you have a copy of a statement showing how much money was in that joint account hang onto it because even though he can move these funds it’s a record of funds he has that you may have the right to having 50% depending on your state divorce laws.

As far as earning money outside of retail, can you try and brainstorm other options? I have no idea about your background, but many people do things like house/pet sitting, tutoring, mystery shopping, watching an elderly person for family members that need to get out of the house for a bit.

There is a lot of information online about ways to make extra money. They may help you brainstorm. It sounds like ultimately you need to leave. You are probably not going to make a ton of money like that. But, anything you can do to set aside some money for yourself will be to your benefit, preferably in a bank account in your name.

When I was between jobs I used to teach private English classes and mystery shopped for everything from jewelry to cars.

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The check was cashed at our bank in person. What happened is that MAYBE the scammer got a hold of ONE of the two lost or stolen checks. People do steal mail to get money & checks as well as credit cards.

OR our maid might have stolen a check from a checkbook that I may have left on the counter. I may have forgotten to put it away. I don’t remember if I did or not.

We did get the $950 back from the bank. The scammer was never caught.

Thanks for the link. I doubt that I’ll get much if anything if I do end up qualifying for disability.

I think you have to have worked for a certain period of time to get it. I haven’t worked in a few years, so idk if I’ll even get anything at all.

I live in the U.S btw if anyone can tell me how disability works if they happen to have any experience with it. I heard that most people get denied at first.

I did find some promising jobs online that aren’t retail that don’t require a lot of computer skills like Excel. I don’t know anything about that at all.

You’re right about what you said. The law in Ca. us a 50/50 state. He took the copies I got from the bank which is weird. My therapist thinks it’s because I’ll loose the paperwork with sensitive financial information on it.

I’ll get more copies & hide them. I might need that info one day. Hopefully the bank manager can provide copies again.

Would someone hire me as a house or pet sitter with no experience at all? If do, where can I find clients or better yet, a company I can work for?

Also, I have no college degree, only a h.s one. I’ve worked at office jobs answering phones. I also worked in a call center. I only had to verify information & input the correct info with clients.

These days most places not only require computer skills I don’t have, some are even expecting you to be bilingual too. Excel is difficult & it takes a long time to learn. Other skills are required like book keeping just for an entry level office job here.

What mystery shopping places did you work for? I heard that some of them are scams as thet ask for money to get materials. Did you ever have to pay any company a fee?

Thanks. I’ll contact them about that & save the info in my phone just in case.

Some I worked for were BARE, HS Service, Ipsos and Albatross International. I also did some projects for Auditor Service, but they are headquartered in Mexico City and I am not sure if they do projects outside of Latin America. BARE had the most work available. Albatross was for luxury brands. The surveys were the most detailed. That paid the best, but they had fewer projects.


I also used to do some store audits for a business called Mintel. I would have to go to stores and see how products were displayed, if the packaging was ripped, etc. Boring, but I needed the money.


Definitely don't pay anything up front. That's a scam. I found this article that could be useful:

Watch Out for Secret Shopper Scams | Take Care

Thanks for the info. I’ll look into those companies. I’ll need a stable consistent job with consistent hours soon though.

Attention everyone, my post regarding accepting an offer of financial help from a poster on here got deleted. I never asked for help. I was offered help & agreed to accept it.

Thanks didn’t realize that I couldn’t do that on here. Sorry.

Not sure what posts got into a trouble but im sorry if it was anything i said that got your posts deleted

It’s not you who got me in trouble. Your post stayed up. Mine got deleted. AND another recent one got deleted on here to. Ugh!

I did NOT ask for money! I just asked a legit question about what would cause a spouse to hide money from their S.O.

I don’t get this at all. I didn’t even get an email telling me it was removed. Wth? What would cause the mods to remove a thread for no reason on here?

Not sure about here, but sadly I remember from other forums that mods and admin can do stuff to members simply cause they feel like it, maybe they had a bad day and are grumpy or something

like one forum from several years ago, the staff there banned one member - their reason? she said no to becoming a mod - then when that member they decided to blame willowtigger and punish her - their reason for that? she was offline due to time zone differences, she loged on to the news of that member's departure and a crapload of nastiness from the staff

They are the reason I find it so hard to begin to trust staff on forums

so yeah, when dealing with me they need to follow their words with actions, but not in a traumatic way like harsh stuff

but yeah i'm making myself a trauma again remembering that place

what i'm trying to say is i have more reason than most to miss trust forum staff cause 99% of them on any forum are out to get me, the proof is how i been treated so many times by them

its one place out of several that did me more damage

willowtigger off topic now

jeskya is loved lots and lots and lots and lots here though

*runs around the thread showering lives for jeskya*

Hhhmm looks there is still a thread here you are asking what would cause spouses to do it. It’s still here not removed