FAQ/Help |
Calendar |
Search |
Magnate
Member Since Apr 2016
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 2,740
8 199 hugs
given |
#41
Quote:
|
|
lizardlady, WovenGalaxy
|
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#42
Quote:
For example: i have a friend in a different country who emails a lot out of anxiety and needing reassurance, she repeats herself loads and would even email me when she knew i was having to put all my energy into looking after older cat Tigger, who i really thought could die - even despite this, friend was seeking reassurance over stuff i had reassured her about countless times before Just because someone doesnt say they have something serious to think and worry about, doesnt mean they dont have something to worry over Maybe off topic but i know my own survival is dependent on my Tiggers problems not getting life threatening Just saying as a example Last edited by Anonymous32448; Apr 15, 2023 at 09:44 AM.. |
|
Bill3, Tart Cherry Jam
|
rdgrad15
|
Grand Member
Member Since Aug 2019
Location: Here
Posts: 907
4 807 hugs
given |
#43
Hi ruby,a lot of verbal expressions are part of social etiquette. People say things like how are you doing?Having good time?Are you alright?How is your day?Things like that.It doesn't mean an invitation to dump what ever bad things are going on with us.
What I understood is your boss is nice and you said so.Good managers,bosses or supervisors want their subordinates to be comfortable in the workplace. Hey,if you need anything ,you know where to find me or if you want to talk or need help you can talk to me.That does not mean you can talk about your personal life.She said those nice words regarding if any difficulty arises in the workplace ,you could talk or ask for her help. |
lizardlady
|
Magnate
Member Since Mar 2021
Location: California
Posts: 2,680
(SuperPoster!)
3 1,203 hugs
given |
#44
Do you have health insurance that would cover a counselor, Ruby?
|
Account Suspended
Member Since Mar 2023
Location: hell
Posts: 19
1 |
#45
Quote:
Most of my coworkers (including managers) also deleted me cuz I was always rude to them. But they also continue to friend each other on snap. Same thing had also happened to me (social media wise) at the other mcdonald's location I used to work at. (it was facebook back then). Cuz I dared to have a favorite person like everyone else. Managers and crew friend each other on social media at all the mcdoanld's stores in this area. But my job coach said I shouldn't partake cuz I can't handle it. Well, they all deleted me so... |
|
Bill3
|
Account Suspended
Member Since Mar 2023
Location: hell
Posts: 19
1 |
#46
Quote:
Also, is 8 days straight too much for ANYONE to bear, whether at work or outside work? |
|
Bill3, Have Hope
|
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#47
To be honest, it sounds like you overwhelm work colleagues with your problems (I might be getting this wrong, its the impression I get from what you've said in this thread)
They likely feel they have to stop talking with you, for their own mental health |
Account Suspended
Member Since Mar 2023
Location: hell
Posts: 19
1 |
#48
Quote:
All my other coworkers delete me cuz I treated them like crap. I’m jealous that everyone else gets to have a favorite person except me. And I had nowhere to put my anger even if I wasn’t jealous Last edited by bluekoi; Apr 19, 2023 at 05:06 PM.. Reason: To bring within Community Guidelines. |
|
Account Suspended
Member Since Mar 2023
Location: hell
Posts: 19
1 |
#49
Everyone that ever cared about me eventually walked out on me. The next one will as well. Nothing’s ever gonna change
|
Bill3
|
Crone
Member Since May 2010
Location: Some where between my inner mind and the solar system.
Posts: 71,614
(SuperPoster!)
14 53.8k hugs
given |
#50
You have the power to change YOUR behavior and that will change how people react to you.
__________________ Nammu …Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. …... Desiderata Max Ehrmann |
lizardlady, Molinit, WovenGalaxy
|
Magnate
Member Since Mar 2021
Location: California
Posts: 2,680
(SuperPoster!)
3 1,203 hugs
given |
#51
I agree with Nammu. Change can happen, but only if it comes from you.
|
WovenGalaxy
|
Magnate
Member Since Sep 2019
Location: Earth
Posts: 2,854
4 4,842 hugs
given |
#52
|
lizardlady, Tart Cherry Jam
|
Magnate
Member Since Apr 2016
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 2,740
8 199 hugs
given |
#53
Quote:
|
|
Tart Cherry Jam
|
Magnate
Member Since Apr 2016
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 2,740
8 199 hugs
given |
#54
Quote:
|
|
Magnate
Member Since Apr 2016
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 2,740
8 199 hugs
given |
#55
Quote:
Divulging your personal life creates a toxic environment, it brings others down and even makes others uncomfortable. When you're at work, you're expected to be focused on work and actually doing your job. It sounds like you're doing everything but your job, you're so focused on your personal life that you can't even do the basic stuff your employer expects you to do. Also telling someone that they're their 8th favorite person is just so toxic and rude, I would've pulled away too and telling someone they better stay good actually comes off as threatening so they have every right to stay far away from you and you need legitimate professional help from a licensed therapist. |
|
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#56
Another example: I keep personal stuff out of the workplace, and when my angel Ebony died in my arms at the vets, that was one of the only two times I told the supervisors at work anything about what was going on, thats simply due to the fact I was in such turmoil inside of me, I wasn't able to do all my work at the speed I normally work at, I had to keep giving myself a few minutes to calm myself so I could carry on with my work.
|
lizardlady, unaluna
|
unaluna
|
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#57
The friend I said about in my posts, tbh I'm having to actually pull back myself cause the more reassurance I give her, the more she seems to need. I can't give her the amount of emotional support she needs, it sounds like its the same with you at your place of work, ruby. Everyone's pulling away because they are unable to give you the amount of help and support you need. I would be there for my friend as much as I could, but it's reaching the point with her that I can't give her anything more cause she's draining so much mental energy out of me.
Thats why I think if you need high levels of support, its best to speak to a professional, not rely on people who are not trained in mental health, to give you all the support you need. |
Bill3, unaluna
|
Bill3, lizardlady, Molinit, unaluna
|
Member
Member Since Jun 2019
Location: Canada
Posts: 153
4 3 hugs
given |
#58
Rather than overwhelm others that you work with, why not post here or somewhere else where you are anonymous.
You can even start your posts with "Dear X (colleague's job title)" and post away what you would like to share with them. That way others can engage with you or not. They can choose if they want to read your posts. No one gets overwhelmed, and you can talk about whatever is bothering you. You never know, you may get some great feedback on how to deal with whatever is bothering you. There are people here who have great insight and a desire to help others. Take advantage of that. |
Bill3, Tart Cherry Jam, WovenGalaxy
|
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#59
Quote:
|
|
Bill3, WovenGalaxy
|
Grand Member
Member Since Aug 2019
Location: Here
Posts: 907
4 807 hugs
given |
#60
Dear ruby,if you didn't like what ever posters were suggesting ,what is that you expect to happen in your situation? I mean what could be the solution according to you?Just curious.
|
Closed Thread |
|
Similar Threads | ||||
Thread | Forum | |||
Reasons for why people obsess about their T's | Psychotherapy | |||
Still don't know WHY I obsess about people | Psychotherapy | |||
Making other people uncomfortable | Coping with Emotions | |||
Obsess with people that i hate | Other Mental Health Discussion |