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Old Apr 07, 2025, 08:27 PM
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Im finally at my wits end. I think this is my last straw. As much as you love someone, sometimes they change, and werent who you first fell for.

Im scared to wits end to leave my abuser. My husband had me move cross country for his own misdemenar (sp?) warrant charge. I have been used like a hostage for the past 6 months.
The C and N words are his favorite to call me. He likes to abuse my dog, who only just turned a year old. Hes a narc, read my other posts to get a glimpse of his bipolar nasty aggressive bs.

Im writing this because im going to try to hold myself to it. I dont want to go back to the other coast but I have no choice, and since he wont leave my apartment I am going to have to leave with the kids and the shirt on my back. I feel insane, but this whole thing has been. I just want to wake up from this nightmare im in.
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Old Apr 07, 2025, 11:16 PM
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Run don’t walk. You and your kids don’t deserve to be treated like this. Have you got any family who can take you in?

I’m sorry it’s so difficult for you right now.
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Old Apr 08, 2025, 03:04 AM
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I remember you making a post a few years ago that went straight to my heart. Probably more than any other post I've read.
Your husband spit in your son's face. He was a toddler at the time (or very young).

I'm so glad to hear you are going to leave him. He is a monster.
Take your dog to a shelter before you go, as your husband will cruelly take his anger out on this poor dog.

If necessary contact a center for abused women. They can help you leave him and get back to the other coast. They may also be able to help get your dog into a shelter or foster home if you are unable to do it on your own.

I wish you all the best. You deserve so much more than this.
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Old Apr 08, 2025, 03:53 AM
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Another member on here gave me the best advice when leaving my abuser that I will now pass onto you: listen to the part of yourself that is screaming inside to save yourself, your kids, and your dog. Do not listen to any other part of you that says you love him and/or can't leave him.

You can do this. Just do it and don't stop to think about it. This is your sanity, your mental health, your safety, your kids' safety, and your dog's safety. Whenever you feel yourself weaken, think of all the worst things he has done to you and your loved ones, and let your anger, rage, disbelief, and sadness fuel you into action. Like others say here, RUN.... don't walk... RUN.
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Old Apr 08, 2025, 04:16 AM
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Stay strong. Leave.

Unless you have a family or friends to go to, the best place is domestic abuse shelter. They can help with housing etc look for one in your area. Also get a dog away from him. Maybe you know some people who can care for him for now. If not, shelter is a better place. Don’t leave your dog at home. Please update us when you are safe.

Also I know domestic abuse shelters will come and get you if you have no transportation. Just make sure he’s not home.

I’ll be thinking about you
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