not sure where this belongs

Just had to talk about this.
There was a time hubby came to me when I was in treatment for alcohol and drugs and he talked of this woman who so called talked to him of her problems. well few weeks out of treatment come to find out this woman was pregnant with his child.
We've gotten past that atleast best we can and now he continually talks of this other woman at work in much the same way.
Tonight I told him to quit talking of her. (I can't take it anymore). Reminds me to much of that time. Am I just being too peranoid or what?
Just needed to get it out and not sure where so thaught here would be best.

Sister Sue,

You shouldn't have to put up with that kind of behavior. I would say it is a form of emotional abuse.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

EJ

I am so very sorry Sister Sue...

You are obviously a very forgiving person...but please don't allow his knowing this about you to provide him permission to continue behaviors requiring forgiveness...

Create a boundary,,communicate that boundary to him and stick to it...It will help you both.

IMHO.

Lenny

I hate this cuz I am not inocent and this whole relationship has been screwed up from day one. His lies and domination, insecurity and my isecurity retaliation an lies. We've been married for 30 years and he has his reasons not to trust me and I have mine not to trust him.
sucks.

I want so to blab about all he did when we were first married and I was so dedicated to him but then I turned totally blowing him out of the water and back and forth and back and forth and of course I was to blame for all but I know today now that it was us not just me. Yet than come into the fears of what he is doing now cuz it reminds me of past. Our communication is deffinately not the best. Not that I haven't tried but seems to never be a good time to do so unless I'm totally falling apart and then he may listen.
grrrrrrrrrr!!!!!
thanx for listening.

You should never blame yourself for HIS behavior. If hes only listening (or may listen!) to you when you are falling apart, it seems to me hes definitely manipulating you. It shouldnt take that much to get someone to listen, imo.

Hoping for the best for you.