[crazybones]

ok here i go for the next yr and 8 mnths i have got to isolate myself from the rest of the so called real world if i am to make it through the up coming stress of a long wait before i can leave this state in which i live and start a family with a girl i love and end all misery the thing is it will be very hard for me to deal with such a LONG wait and it bothers me a little because my g/f eventually going to be my fiance needs help and at this time i really ( cant ) help her becuz of a few factors one no dl's yet two no car to get there three at this time no $ either and i feel kinda like i have *failed* per say but it is not any of this which is bothering me what is would be the fact i hate to go into isolation for FEAR i shall FAIL myself as i have many times before i plan on succeding but more people think i wount then those who think i will i constantly have people bringing me down and constant bad influences and am not always the greatest when it comes to making the right choices i truely worried about my g/f so that is another reason i have to go into hiding so i can stop hearing all the problems around and pay attention to her problems so i can there for her a 100 % i want her to be and stay happy that is all i ever wanted for her but i know she will not truely be happy until i am there with her i f***ing hate feeling so useless sorta speak am a lost ship out in the middle of the ocean

[Timgt5]

I have been down that road Isolation has its appeal, but in the end, will only leave you in greater dispair, instead do the opposite, build a close network of support with the right people to help get you through this.

A person never truly fails unless, they fail to learn from what they had messed up on. and is unwilling to keep trying. We all have setbacks, but hang in there.

TJ

[AAAAA]

(((((crazybones))))) speaking from experience, isolating yourself from the world only makes it hard to re-enter. Back in the day, spending a day off in my room with only my hubby and kids watching movies was a luxury. After a major trauma in my life, I rarely leave it now. Travel this road carefully.

We all have setbacks, they're not failures but lessons yet to learn.

Oh, and it's lovely that you want to dedicate yourself 100% to gf, but don't forget about taking care of you first. It's not selfish, it's self care.

[splitimage]

Br very careful about isolating especially for long periods. It's something I've tended to do in the past and it's only made me feel more lonely and depressed. It can be scary sometimes to go out and be with people, but long run it's healthier, and people can be a great support network.

And in order to really support your girlfriend, which is great, you have to make sure you take care of yourself too, both mentally and physically. if you do you'll be in a much better position to help her.

Take care.

---splitimage

[seeker1950]

Yes, I also tend to isolate. I do find that if, and when, I go out to meet with people, I think, Ah, that wasn't so bad, and I even feel better, and enjoy the company of others. At many times, I just prefer solitude, and there's nothing wrong with that either.
Patty

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((( crazybones ))))))))))))))))

[crazybones]

thanks evryone i will do my best to do w/e possible i appreciAte ALL THE RESPONSE'S

[selfy]

scott.. dont isolate. the start of the summer has been hell for me because ive been isolated from ppl IRL. yall here at PC made it easier, but it was still awful. it brings about depression and all sorts. i hope things go well for you tho.
tc
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[Clandestine]

I tend to isolate myself as well. I did it for 3 months early this year and it just brough me greater despair and drowned me into depression. This is a phase, it's okay sometimes. But you have to help yourself too. You can just talk to a few people in real life, little by little, until you can get back to the same pace.

<font color="purple">Clandestine</font>

[crazybones]

ok selfy i will try not to cuz you said so lol yeah i understand wht u mean i am doing much better got out of mom's house have my own apartment now in a different town new friends and very happy THANKS everybody

[Perna]

Yes, living is a bit like dreams; you have to face whatever monster or it will just keep showing up in front of you.