I just want him to stop!

I love my BF with all my heart, but there is one thing that just irritates the heck outta me and it's that he looks over my shoulder at what I am looking at on the computer.

See, we sit next to each other on the loveseat, he on his laptop and me on mine. We use those TV trays for our laptops because otherwise we get no connection to the internet. Why do I tell you this? Because I can't turn my computer away from him, I have nowhere else to go in our little apartment.

It is so darned irritating and I don't know why. We share everything together, I am not looking at anything wrong, nor am I worried about what he might see. I just feel like my privacy is invaded or something. I feel the same way at work and if I am reading a newspaper and someone looks over my shoulder, so it's not just him. I just don't want to deal with it at home.

Has anyone else ever had this problem? How do I approach him about it (he is very sensitive)? Am *I* just being too sensitive? Am *I* the one with the problem and need to work on it?

Thanks,
BJ

Can you tell him that it's something about you, that it bugs you to have anyone read over your shoulder. And ask him to ask you first if he can look at what you're looking at? Would that work better?

That's a really good idea. I think I can say that without upsetting him. Thanks Echoes!

I feel the same way about that. I can't stand to have someone watching me. I've said it to people and a lot of times; they didn't even realize they were doing it and weren't doing it to be invasive. Knowing that helps me but it can still be annoying. Good luck with letting him know in a sensitive way. Keep us posted.