[myoasis89]

My family has always had financial problems. I grew up as a child hoping for a better life and to have more money. I meet this wonderful guy, handsome rich kind generous religious...He's the perfect guy...but I don't think it's real love. I'm not totally sure about this...it's been a year. Instead I meet this mexican guy who I avoided for several months. He wouldn't leave me alone. I had no feelings for him at all. I wasn't attracted at all. All I knew was that I was attracted to my rich bf. WELL, lo and behold...The mexican starts getting to know me and I get to know him. We become friends...He keeps trying to hold my hand and hold me ingeneral...I get pissed off and tell him to take a hike I dunno how many times. Told him i love my bf...told him a whole bunch of stuff...Then we just clicked one day...it just happened...I saw him in a new light...I feel like I'm falling for him...but I love my bf...why do things get so complicated....I don't even know what to do anymore..I'm not sure if this mexican guy is playing tricks with me and only wants to steal me away from my bf...or if I am actually in love with him...I have no clue but it's sterssing me out...I want to stay true to my bf...but I'm not exactly sure i can trust this mexican......All I wanted was friendship from the mexican..I told him that I dunno how many times...now he calls me baby and cutie pie...I'm like..I'm not your baby...I have a bf. I guess i chould just get rid of the friendship with the mexican

[madisgram]

myoasisyou'll know when to do what you think is best. follow your instincts and you will make the right decision. keep us posted about how you are doing. we care.

[myoasis89]

Originally Posted by madisgram

myoasisyou'll know when to do what you think is best. follow your instincts and you will make the right decision. keep us posted about how you are doing. we care.

thanks madisgram, it's not that simple though. I don't know what my insticnts are. I don't know what I want. I think I'm just scared that my bf won't love me forever...so I'm hoping someone will...I think i ahve a lot of insecurities about this...I have very few friends and the mexican seemed like a good friend...he wants more than that. It was the first time ever that someone saw me as fun to be with...and I felt like I finally had a friend...now I just have trouble...I'm scared and I don't know what to do...I just want friends...I want people to love me for me...It's confusing...in someways I think the mexican is just upset because he wants what he can't have...my bf cares for me...but I don't think I'm good enough for him and i want him to be happy with someone who he is meant to be with...my family is broken and I'm raelly needy...he doesn't deserve that

[bonaire]

I blew 3 relationships because someone else got interested in me and I went their way. Three people who I clicked with very well - and would have been great wives if they went further.

Ask your bf what his intentions are with you - and then ask guy #2. You may also want to meet the #2 family and friends and spend time with them to understand what kind of guy he "really" is. There is a lot of "language" guys like him use which is great for attraction but not good for stability. A good relationship includes far more than "attraction talk" (hey baby, spend time with me). It involves handling rough situations with grace, being able to support you, allowing you to be you and so on.

[madisgram]

thanks madisgram, it's not that simple though. I don't know what my insticnts are. I don't know what I want. I think I'm just scared that my bf won't love me forever...so I'm hoping someone will...I think i ahve a lot of insecurities about this...
((( mo))) sounds like you have to get to know you first then, imho. relying on other people for your own personal happiness doesn't work well in the long run. it sounds like you're pretty young so perhaps you still don't have all your own "parts" put together just yet. that's ok, you're becoming an adult and it's an adventure! so it's best to know who you are and what you want first... and become comfortable with that just as it is. then you can branch out and pick someone compatible with you. i guess all of us at one time or another said i don't want to be alone!! but being comfortable in your own skin first is not as bad as you may think. it's fun getting to know who you are.
hope this helps you. you matter and i care. thanks for replying and explaining more about what's going on with you. life's kind of like an experiment as we become adults. we try this, we try that, and soon we know what it is we really want out of life!! you've got all the time in the world....enjoy the journey.