My bf is very insecure about his size....

Hello,

My bf is extremely insecure about his size. He asks a lot of questions about previous men ive been with , not many, at all, but he ALWAYS seems to be comparing himself to them.

And yes, they were bigger..which seems to be getting to him. BUT i didn't like it. Truth be told, it hurt like hell. He is probably in the 'average' range, but to me it looks big...but id prefer one - like he has - where (sorry to be blunt), able to fit it in my mouth! lol and not choke or gag in a bad way.

Plus, i like him, who he is, thats what he comes with, thats what i like. I wish he'd get off the thing where he keeps saying that i wish he was bigger.

What can i do in this siutation? Are actions better than words? If so, what are good actions?

Everything i say, he says im lying. But im not. Am i better to keep reasuring him or ignoring the topic and telling him im not discussing it again?


any help would be great...

Wow....this is really difficult to deal with....you should tell him that you are with him that means you are enjoying him physically, emotionally and mentally...
probably, he got to see a phsycologist....This is really strange!

Quite frankly I don't think this all has to do with size but more with your BF personal insecurities. Don't avoid the subject as it is important to him and if you care you should try to resolve the matter together. Find out what is behind his concern and what is he really afraid of. That may lead him to the real problem behind the concern that is not necessarily about his sexual anatomy

lattie,
I'd like to add that after you have this frank discussion, try and remember that you have every right to set boundaries.
Right now he is saying you are lying to him; where is his trust in you?
Jmo, but there is a limit to what you need to share about your past experiences. It's your business, and yours alone. You decide what, or if, you are going to share.
It appears that honestly sharing with him is not helping the situation anyway...

Best wishes,
Cap

thank you.

i have been told to dont discuss it any more, and if he brings it up, tell him im not talking about it... seems harsh. I wonder if something happened with an ex or something.

He is a bit insecure about other things too... so maybe your right thats its not to do with his size.

So if he brings it up again, try to talk to him at why he thinks that way?

Thanks!
I know i wish i never said anything. See if i dont answer, or say its not relevant or its the 'past', he takes that as a 'yes' or a confirmation to his question. He asks and asks and asks....

i dont think its 'trust' in that kind of way. he just doesn't believe me... which makes me wonder why..has something happened previously. or he thinks im saying it to make him feel better...

he said he didn't want to let me down........... thats soo far from it. im happy with how he is... maybe other girls wern't... dunno

thank you

yeah, i'll try. i like him for who he is. i liked him before i knew his 'size'... thats not why i like him .lol.

funny that, a friend also said that its not right and he needs help.....

Extenze!! "It can make a man larger regardless of age!!!!!" LOL!