[lostnbigcity]

ok, the b/f and I have got a pretty crazy relationship if thats what you want to call it...but , I love him and live in his house..here's the prob.... My daughter (23) just gave birth to my first grandchild and it was a very hard time for her ( I really thought she wasnt going to make it ) I invited her to come and stay with me for the weekend so I could help her by showing her a few things because this is her first child and she is in alot of pain & I could maybe help her by letting her get some rest...anyhow. The B/f has been making no attemp to be pleasant and he said to me " I sure hope the baby doesn't cry allnight" it really hurts me that I can't help my daughter out and to NOT cause any problems with the b/f I sent her back home...He has been in his room allday and I feel like a terrible mother for not being there for my daughter....just needed to vent I guess. this isnt the first time he has acted this way towards my children....he lives very close to his family and we do everything with them ........makes me so upset.......

[beadlady29-old]

iffen he has been in room for the rest of the day, then maybe bf is feeling bad for what he said to you..............jsut a thouhgt

(love your username..........because we is lost\stuck in MI)

hope things gets goodersoon,
beads

[bearchic34]

Can you go stay at your daughters to help her out? Why put up with his nasty behaviour toward your family. Your children need you know matter how old they are and to let a man stop you from doing what you need/want to do as a mom is WRONG. I'm sorry, i don't mean to upset or offend anyone...it's just I have seen so many women put jerky men in front of their kids and I don't understand how they do that. My kids come before everything, including my husband. He knows and agrees with that. They didn't ask to be born or brought into this world. Esp at this time your daughter needs your love, support, guidance and you need to stand up and be a role model for her.
Good luck

[lostnbigcity]

I agree totally with what you said ...I have myself in a fix and its going to take alot to get me out...I wish I could go stay with my daughter but that is another story and thats why I offered her to come here...I am told that this is my house and this is what I get when I want to do something..I am planning on leaving but its easier said than done. I got myself into a situation and he knows I have nowhere to go ....my kids are all I have and sometimes we have are up and downs but it doesnt mean we don't love eachother..I question his love for me and my kids....wish I could leave right this minute and had a place to go cause I would be out of here! I made a big mistake comming here for sure....I wish I had the answers ....I'm so upset right now and he is still in the bedroom like he did nothing wrong ....and this will lead to us not talking for days...he's ok with that cause he has his family and thats all he needs...but , if I try to leave it will be a huge fight.......I'm just real upset about all this but he will win..he always does......

[beadlady29-old]

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sorry so hard for you rite now..............
think about your kids when you do not feel strong and you
CAN and WILL find the strength to do what you have to do

thinking of you,
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beads