how to seduce your therapist

....without making it explicit that youre doing so?

i adore mine, im going to hit on him without making it obvious, how might one go about this? light-hearted question, with a hint of seriousness

If you really like your T don't do this to him.
That's the only advice I can give.

I agree with anilam. Your therapist is there to help you professionally and not to play seduction games. This is unethical and could get your therapist is deep trouble, like losing his license. It you do value him as a human being, you shouldn't do this. It will also interfere with the reason you're there - to get better.

You should be very honest with your T about these desires. There is something at the root of them which would be healthy to address. Don't play games with yourself and your time. Therapy can be healing, but it requires honesty. Even with the transperence emotions, honesty is the very best policy.

It's actually not a light-hearted question - it's a very serious thing that could affect your therapist's career and your own mental health.

My guess is that you actually know very little about him. What you do know is what he lets you see in the context of therapy, which is, by definition, completely different than rest of his life. He shows what you need him to be, not what he truly is.

Tell your T about your feelings. It'll tell him a lot about what your needs are and it will help him understand you so much better.

It's pretty easy for a woman to make herself available to a man. Just wear a short skirt etc...

But just be aware that your therapist will most likely know what you're doing and have you no longer continue the therapy with him. You're better off exploring these thoughts and explaining them to your therapist and not play games. It's your money you're playing these games with, remember that.

Seducing a man is easy. Finding a therapist worth the effort of even meeting with is damn hard. I sure wouldn't want to waste a good one.

Tell me if I am wrong, but weren't you the one who was convinced that your T was attracted to you and you were freaked out by it?

I believe you are correct, Healed.

i have so been there. .. thought my psychiatrist liked me, had transference bad. i even had a romantic relationship with my psychology professor back when i was 19. he also gave me therapy.
it's tempting to do it because the transference is so strong. it's natural to feel attracted to a man who makes you feel emotions, who listens to you, and cares about you. but it's not the kind of relationship that you think it is... the best thing you can do is either ditch him and get a new one, or simply ask him how to deal with transference and if he has any thoughts on strategies or even a group for it. good luck.

great answers thanks everyone

i did mean it in a jokey way, and ofcourse im not going to try to seduce him! only cant stop dreaming about him.

i need some help, why would i feel like this for him? ive realised i do love my father deeply, and i am a daddys girl by heart, after losing closeness to him at a young age. yet i still have these feelings for my therapist. how would resolving my fathers issues help me now? im so confused

I never think I would seduce a T

No matter what stage of life you are in, resolving father issues can teach you a LOT about yourself. Not only what you need, but your strengths. My advice about T is to tell him how you feel; as someone said, it will show him what you need and give a great direction for therapy to go. I am wondering about your father issues, and I'm sorry I don't have time to search to see if you've posted about that before. Would you consider reading my blog where I have just posted a "Father Stories" entry? Please comment and let me know if this is horrifying or helpful. I want to be here for you because I understand about strong transference. I eve have small experience with recognizing my T's countertransference. Both can be very useful. But taking it to actual sex will feel good at the time, maybe for a long time--it will not, however, heal you in the overall sense. My blog is with my posting picture. If it won't link, consider copying and pasting and visiting. I just started it recently. I feel something toward you. Maybe it is just knowing what you feel, to some degree. It is kind of like...
love.

wow seriously this has been a lifechanging day, i feel so funny! i have found out soo many things just recently about what i aspire to in my life, and its my dad! i love him soooo much! and it all got lost at 6, because of my sister and mothers jealousy or the guilt i felt at our close bond. so what i need and my strengths are what im missing? wow....youre so right, should i follow this path in my life then? ive been so lost for years, i have social anxiety and am always unable to know who i am or how to live. my dad really is my world, and my sister and mother conflicted it? this is so interesinng, ill check out your blog. what did you go through with your dad to help you figure things out>

Well, you might find the blog post weird. But my dad gave me everything I needed. Just other things got in the way throughout life--such as racism--and stuff you can find out by following posts I've written or my profile. But my dad was my teacher. He was my ONLY parent who ever actually said the words: "I love you" to me. The only parent to hug me. He taught me, beginning at age 12 to do real bookkeeping and light tax returns so that I never had to wash dishes for a living. He is patient and kind. When I re-read the blog post about him and his impact on my sexuality, I realized I have every reason in the world to be strong and look for more strengths. He gave me the best start. Tell your T you kind of almost not seriously, exactly, want to seduce him, and then tell T why. Talk about your dad. Don't let T make it sex. It is YOUR LIFE. You've come to a point now where you know that. A woman/girl needs a GREAT dad. A sucky dad--she is better off without. If your dad was great, or at least even tried to be great for you, then yes, follow.

I would talk to your T about this - both of you want what's best for you.

If you have a strong sense that your T is attracted to you, maybe he isn't handling his own issues very well. Seek a new T, consider a female T, otherwise you may feel compelled to play this out over and over again with other male T's.

Transference happens with either gender, regardless of the client's orientation. Straight female clients can develop feelings (even erotic ones) for female therapists. The underlying reasons are the same, which is why it's always best to talk about the feelings and resolve them, no matter how embarrassing it is. If they're not resolved, it's likely they'll keep coming up over and over, with therapists and with other people in our lives.

but is that a bad thing? to go after men like your father? if thats what im doing....well in some ways, but not my dads flaws. what do you mean the reasons are the same?

interesting that you mention his issues, can you explain further?

Transference usually means that you're projecting qualities (good or bad) of someone else or qualities you need on the object of your transference. It doesn't mean that the person necessarily actually has those qualities. Learning to identify your own projections/needs will help you see people as they really are, not how you project them to be. That way, you can have healthier relationships in the future.

i am just sooo very glad i never wanted to seduce my t and i never once got the feeling he wanted to seduce me.

i would have ran for the hills and screamed

I honestly don't think my guy is seducable. Or would it be seducible? Both are showing up wrong on the spell check thing. I feel like I could offer him some form of sexual activity every time I see him and the answer would always be no, though I think he'd be nice about it the first few times. There's a certain comfort in that feeling.

seductable. i love my pscyhe, i honestly dont care about the whole patient thing anymore as i feel we've resolved alot of my father things now, but hes still awesome as a person to me

Your feelings are understandable, they happen in therapy. But I agree with all those above - please don't act on this! It's not fair to him, or to yourself. You are there for help. Let him know about these feelings in an honest way, and have him help you work through it. I've been there myself, I know it's hard. Good luck to you.