You know you have erotic transference when..

My T would call the riot police if I tapped him on the arm I think.

I'm still riding the high! It was instinctively & just happened. Tehe!
I don't want to bug him with constant texts though...he'll read them but not sure if he'll respond 😞

Your T is really that much against touch!?

Yes - I once asked him to hold me when we discussed my suicidal thoughts and general feeling of melancholy and he refused. We were discussing why, and he said - this is talk therapy, we don't touch each other. I felt it was a very cold way of putting it.

That makes me feel that I don't really have permission to say, tap him on the arm in a friendly way, even if the circumstance was appropriate.

Not cold exactly, maybe I felt like he was impatient or scolding. To be fair when I asked, he did ask if he could just hold me with words, and in that moment I was so despairing at my thoughts, that I said no, I wanted to be held physically.

How do you hold someone with words?

I think my marriage counselor is able to "hug with his voice" (both tone of voice and words he's saying. Though if you want a real hug, it's not the same...

You look on his Facebook page, again and you see he has a new profile picture and your heart immediately beats a 100 times faster. **** he looks so good! His smile �� And it's taken somewhere abroad. How I would love to travel the world with him...
How can I go to sleep now? I'm wide awake after seeing this. My heart won't slow down.

Hmm, don't think I could be comfortable with that. My T and I have maintained physical contact throughout every session for over a year. I was going to say "we use a lot of non-sexual touch" but to be fair, I do the vast majority. I do often worry one day he'll reset the boundaries, especially as I now know that our way is unusual.

I dunno, I never asked him to clarify, I just assumed he meant he would say things that would make me feel like he is there, or he cares, or something

When all the songs on lite rock radio feel like they're about T, or you and T

Hope you managed to get some sleep Chummy and woke up to a nice day

Ooh yes, I had a T song

'What's your T song?' Almost worthy of a thread of its own

Ok, this is really embarrassing but who cares, its the internet, right? I have a lot of T songs, but maybe one in particular is Maroon 5's Sugar. I never analyzed why, but I suppose I imagine T is pining away for me and singing it, I guess

How about you?

Mines a Rhianna one

You know, someone has started a thread of this, haha!

There was a thread on exactly this topic a couple of years ago.
Maybe you could revive it?

When someone is going down on you and you start to imagine that it's your T doing it to you, not the person actually doing it. That really put it out there in the open for me. No more pretending! No, I never told my T that!!! I would be mortified!

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We're tackling the driving phobia and T is riding shotgun. Scratching his facial hair in a loud and bristly way, one wonders if he is leaving hairs in my car.

Cloning, anyone? Just a thought. Would be nice to take home T 2.0, who may not object to the things I want to do to him.

When your appointment is today, and you're so excited because last time she held your hand during the session and of course, the typical end of session hug was longer than usual !!!!

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That's it! cloning! You've hit on the solution to this business.

Okay, now I have this random mental image of the entire couch jammed into the backseat of your car giggling and whispering about your T

You're in the deepest, darkest, most shameful place in therapy, your T puts on her reading glasses and you think 'oh! Sooooo cute!'

You're losing sleep because every time you close your eyes, you're on that beach having that conversation with her.

When you lie down in bed T is lying there next to you wearing a t-shirt and underwear.

I think mine would be in boxers or briefs in bed with me