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Unconditional LoVe -


I was just sitting here thinking about LoVe given Unconditionally and I just realized that I do not always LoVe my husband of 21 years unconditionally as the Bible says we should, so with that I am wondering......

Do YOU think failure to perform this task of Unconditional LoVe is a Sin before God?


(or) Do YOU you feel as though God will forgive us of this short coming for He knows we are human, therefore, we are governed much to often by our emotions - yet when we fall short we pick our self up and try again.

[Maven]

I'm not religious, but if there's a God, I don't think S/He expects us to be perfect. And, as far as Christianity goes, all you need is ask for forgiveness, and you'll be given it.

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Maven said:
And, as far as Christianity goes, all you need is ask for forgiveness, and you'll be given it.

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True........ IF & WHEN the HEART is WILLING / SINCERE - for God looks at the Heart and not the Mind, for the Heart tells all - even when the mind may lie.

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FYI - when I say I do not LoVe my husband Unconditionally - what I mean is that: I am finding that I some times base my level of LoVe for my husband upon the past and the hurt / pain his actions and eyes caused me...... and I know this is wrong.

... I am honestly trying to change.

[bebop]

I don't think God expects us to be perfect at all. He knows we are only human and no one is perfect.

I know we are suppose to love unconditionally but I truely believe it is impossible to love anyone other than babies like that.

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bebop said:
I know we are suppose to love unconditionally but I truely believe it is impossible to love anyone other than babies like that.

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Oh BABIES............ the Face & Scent of Unconditional LoVe.

<font color="purple"> I think God forgives us for our weaknesses. Loving unconditionally is not an easy task. I think that it is possible that we'll make a mistake from time to time because unconditional love is not taught and it is hard to find. </font>

[sabby]

I believe that any true love of an individual is unconditional.

What I believe happens throughout the relationship is that we put conditions on how we show and/or express our love because of actions towards us that may be hurtful.

As an example: I may be hurt by something my husband says. So my reaction to that would be to withhold my affection towards him. Does that mean I don't love him unconditionally? I don't believe so....I believe it is merely an emotional reaction to pain....not withdrawl of love because of a condition.

Just a thought.....

Hugsss
sabby

[eskielover]

This is just my opinion on this, but>>>>I look at marriage as a partnership.....that unconditional love has to come from both parties in the marriage if is exists at all. It can't be one sided. One person can't just do what they want & disrespect the other & expect unconditional love from that person because they are married to them. Respect & love come hand in hand.

From some of your words, I am wondering if he loves you unconditionally? The unconditional love that God talks about is in an ideal marriage & it seems that those don't exist these days. Some people think that if the other person will love them no matter what they do, then they can do whatever they want & still have that love no matter what. That isn't the marriage that God is talking about in my opinion. I feel that God can see & knows what is going on in each marriage & knows whether that unconditional love is appropriate or not. I am sure there are other interpretations.....& as far as my knowledge, the only thing in a marriage that would be a sin is being unfaithful......the rest is ideal guidelines that God gives us for how a marriage should be.

Just my opinion after 32 years of marriage & growing up in a christian family,
Debbie

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What I believe happens throughout the relationship is that we put conditions on how we show and/or express our love because of actions towards us that may be hurtful.

As an example: I may be hurt by something my husband says. So my reaction to that would be to withhold my affection towards him. Does that mean I don't love him unconditionally? I don't believe so....I believe it is merely an emotional reaction to pain....not withdrawl of love because of a condition.

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Good Point............................

and one that has been coming to mind for me as I read the replies in here - for I have continued to LoVe him all these years (24) - I just don't like him at times -

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eskielover said:
This is just my opinion on this, but>>>>I look at marriage as a partnership.....that unconditional love has to come from both parties in the marriage if is exists at all. It can't be one sided.

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I agree with what you are saying here........

I am concerned with my part of the LoVe before God - for I cannot be held accountable for what another person does or does not do before God - that is up to them / him.

[sabby]

I completely understand what you are saying here.

Even when I divorced my husband, I felt an unconditional love for him but I did not like him very much. He wasn't a bad guy for the most part, but he was very distant and hard to connect with. I still love him unconditionally as a human being and I respect him very much. But I just could not live his kind of life anymore. Such a complex emotion this love thing

Hugsss
sabby