something to live by

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SeptemberMorn said:
If "we" live by the Golden Rule then our conscience is clear. At least we know that we are doing our best in the eyes of God... and for ourselves.

We can live the example, but we can't make others follow our example. If others don't do their best, then it's their problem. If we think that others aren't doing their best, then we are judging others. That's not our job, it's God's job. Our job is to be as caring and understanding as we can be but we don't have to keep butting our heads against the same brick wall until we're bloodied.

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Thank you September, that was beautifully explained and so true.

I've tried really hard to live by the Golden Rule. To me, it is what my heart and soul tell me to do. While I am far from perfect and I do have my days where it's harder than others to play nice, (and this is where doing my best comes in ), I do the best I can do under the circumstances.

One thing I have noticed......no matter how bad someone else's day has been, no matter how cranky and miserable they may be, when I can afford someone a smile and a brief moment of appreciation to them, if nothing else, it gives them a moment to pause and think and 99% of the time, I receive back a bit of what I gave them......Sometimes it's just another smile in return, sometimes I hear them take a deep breath and I get a knowing look, other times they relax and say "geeesh....what a day" and I can commisurate with them just a bit and before you know it, they feel better....if even for one short minute. But that one short minute of being cared for is something they think about for the rest of the day. How cool is that???

So yes, I try to live by the Golden Rule....and if by chance a 1% doesn't respond in kind to my kindness....well it's on them.....and I cannot control how they react....but I say a prayer and move on. I will try hard not to judge them because I do not live their life, and.....someone else has that dubious position


sabby

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So yes, I try to live by the Golden Rule....and if by chance a 1% doesn't respond in kind to my kindness....well it's on them.....and I cannot control how they react....but I say a prayer and move on. I will try hard not to judge them because I do not live their life, and.....someone else has that dubious position

sabby

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So true....

I too try to live by the Golden Rule. In fact, sometimes I think I am nicer to others, then I am to myself.

But it does make me feel good, when I can create a smile in another person.

The golden Rule is something I taught my children to live by, and they are teaching their children to live by.

It is something we can all do. It costs no money, and the long term effects both for the giver and receiver can make the real difference in someone's day, or week, or. . . You get the picture

Take care everyone!

You're a grandma, Dani???? No way!!! Hu Uh! Nooooo...

Yep, a grandma! Can you believe it? A little girl 2 1/2 , and is she a cutie too. (I sound like a grandma don't I?)

Unfortunately, she and mom and dad live 1,500 miles away. I try to get out there as much as possible, and they come to visit, but with the price of gas these days....

We do a lot of talking over the computer, and for now I have to be content watching her grow-up over the internet.

I am trying to talk my son and DIL into moving back east so he can get his MBA around here. They could live with us, and I could help babysit while they finish up their degrees. Oh I have such great plans.........

Don't you love being a grandparent Sept??

Danialla

I've heard grandchildren are a special bunch. Thanks to my son, my father managed to survive lung cancer for a total of five years. He lived for that boy.

When my son was around your granddaughter's age, I was sitting with my father and we were admiring my son playing on the floor in front of us. My father thought my son was perfect and could do no wrong, lol. He said to me "You know that overwhelming feeling of love you feel for your son? It never goes away - it just gets stronger. That's how I feel about you."

He then went on to say that parenting is very hard, but grandchildren are the reward for enduring all the headaches of parenting.

I hope your son can find a way to move back closer to you. I'm sure your granddaughter is also "perfect."

Dani, I had you pegged for a youngester in your 20s! But a grandma, NEVER!

Oh, Dani, babies are so wonderful at 2 1/2! My youngest grandson is that age. Yeah, the terrible twos. He was born three months premature so he's been a little slow in talking but hey, he's got "No!" down pat! He's #9 in the lineup and the last one. Makes me sad that there will be no more babies. All four of my kids have taken care of that.

But yeah... grandkids are a whole new breed of people. I guess it's partly the fact that we have grown a lot since we had our own kids and what seemed attrocious in them is absolutely adorable in the grandkids. Also, we have time to enjoy the babies without having to worry about the responsibility of feeding, clothing and raising them up properly. Instead, you still get on your own kids about how they are raising the babies.

I certainly hope that you can talk your son and his wife into moving where you are. Don't you just hate it when they move so far away from you?

Thinking: "Dani, a grandmother! LOL"

LOL SM

I remember telling my son he could NOT have any cookies before dinner. What do I see? My dad sneaking him COOKIES behind my back! ACK - I was never even allowed to have cookies for dessert.

I'm so glad my dad had that time with my son.

Not ever for dessert? How about for snacks?

Yes, if the grandparent is a decent person, it's a great experience for both them and the children.

I only knew the maternal grandmother. Not a good experience at all! So I try to be the best grandma I know how.

Yep. My mother was diabetic. So if momma couldn't have any sugar, nobody could. We also weren't allowed to add salt to our food because she was concerned about my father's heart. All of his brothers had heart attacks, and she blamed it on the salt-pork they added to their vegetables.

Dessert for us was fruit, whatever was in season at the time - but we couldn't overdo it with fruit either. I remember eating an orange and asking mom for another one. She said I didn't need another orange, so therefore I couldn't have one. Dad agreed.

We also weren't allowed to have any soft drinks or Koolaid. Whenever I'd complain to my dad, he'd point to the faucet and say "Are you kidding? That's Lake Michigan water - the most refreshing drink possible!"

Whenever my sister and I spotted a bag of potato chips in the house, we knew we were having company, lol. We were also allowed to bake brownies or make Finnish pullaa (coffee cake) for our guests.

I was always jealous of my friends who had grandparents living with them, even the ornery grandparents. Their insults were funny. It served to make my friends a little more colorful out on the streets. I know now some of those ornery grandparents were a little more than insulting - what a shame.

I suspect you are a very good grandmother, even when you get ornery - because of all the love in your heart.

I know........... Me a grandma, who'd of thought.

When my son got his scholarship to an out of state school, I was so excited for him. I have always had a real sense of wanderlust, and could see a lot of myself in my son. I forgot that going away to school, increased the chances of meeting "the" girl , and settling down in that same state

I am still working on selling him the grad school scenario. The economy isn't great around here, although it probably isn't great anywhere, but we have some great Universities, with highly sought after MBA programs. Here's hoping ::fingers crossed:: and praying ::head bowed, hands folded::, that he takes the bait.

I miss my grand daughter so much. And if I was not the one who carried the health insurance and retirement plan, well.....I would be out there ASAP.

Unfortunately, I have allowed by husband to "play" business for the last 25 yrs, and now the only thing we have to show for it is our house, that still has a $75,000 line credit due on it....... (Did I tell you that I hate my life?) But that is a whole other story....

Anyway......... Grandchildren are truly a blessing and I am sure that being around her would give me a new lease on life.

Children are truly God's gift to us!

hmmmm kind of went way off topic lol

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hmmmm kind of went way off topic lol

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Well,.........I did say that I taught my children and they are now teaching their children the "Golden Rule". But your right, that was about 7 posts ago.

I will try to bring the topic back around again Bebop..........

Please remember folks, It is easy to recite the "golden rule." Harder to actually teach that concept to children or grandchildren, and hardest is to try to live by it on a daily basis.

Someone said practice makes perfect, and though we will never be perfect, at least not in this life, it is a still a good thing to practice. Trying everyday to treat people with respect, compassion, understanding and maybe a smile too, won't kill us.............. It might in fact make us a better person.

See Bebop....... Not that far off topic
P.S. Thanks for understanding too

hahaha daniella you are right! heheheh thanks hon

I had the opportunity Sunday to teach my 8 yr old granddaughter the Golden Rule!

Saturday we had spent the afternoon and part of the evening at the fair. I had spent quite a bit of money on food and rides for the two oldest ones. On Sunday, hubby and I went to their place to help out with some of the work, like finishing up some work on the RV so they could take it to the fair as they are spending the week there. I had gone to care for our vegetable garden because they hadn't had time or would have time in the following week.

I was taking a break from the heat and sun and asked my granddaughter to get me a Coke out of the fridge. She didn't want to and made no move to do as I asked. So... I reminded her of all the nice things I had done for her the previous day but that if she didn't want to be nice to me, too, to not expect me to do those things again for her. Boy, did she jump to go get me that Coke! LOL When she came back with it, I asked her if she had ever heard of the Golden Rule and she said "no" so I repeated it to her and repeated it in words that would be quite clear to her; "Treat others and do things for them like you want to be treated and want others to do things for you." She said she got it and went back to what she was doing but I saw a flash of Rebel in her eyes. I'll probably have to remind her.

It felt good to be able to teach her something her parents hadn't. Now, follows Consistency!