i am not coping with school at the moment last week i had 6 tests and i have another 3 coming up and i have 3 assignments due as well. i failed all the tests and i am going to fail school even with the school helping i am exhausted because i never sleep and i am just not managing but if i stopped going to school my parents would kill me i didnt go for a month last year and my mum didnt speak to me and she wouldnt even look at me she just pretended i didnt exist. i dont have the finances to move out plus i am 17 so it really isnt an option but neither is not going to school i just i am really not doing well lately and i dont know what to do.

Anyone.....

I guess not

Sorry you are struggling so much right now. I'm not feeling that great myself, but I didn't want you to feel ignored. I know how that is. So I am sending you hugs

Thank you i keep meaning to speak to the school but i get so nervous that i back out every time i also seem to go mute when i get nervous so that doesnt help either.

Can you write it down and hand them a piece of paper instead? I find that works for me sometimes

No they get mad when i dont actually speak to them it is weird.

[phillipaq76]

Sorry to read about your situation. I actually came to this site to seek some answers myself and after reading your post I might be able to offer some support. If you are in your final year of high school could you consider pausing some subjects, focusing on the ones you can cope with and then pick up the other subjects next year at a different school or college to get the points you need? I also wondered if you had a special interest subject that you find enjoyable and could think about as a career. If so, that might help power you into making some positive decisions. It's not easy being young and competing with peers, a social life and the pressure from parents - so yes, you are coping with a lot and I congratulate you for the courage to put yourself on this forum. Parents I know worry non-stop about their children and hope they can fulfill their potential as young adults, but it's not easy feeling their stress and your own. Perhaps your mother had no better way of coping with your absence from school last year? Maybe that is her limitation and you experienced this first-hand. Either way, sometimes it is helpful to put yourself in their shoes and remember that they are coping the best way they can - as are you Know that you will get through this and you are full of potential that you don't yet have awareness of. Give yourself a chance to find some relaxation in each day - exercise, listen to music and dance ... whatever it is for you that is healthy. I find that keeping a study plan on my wall is really helpful and I rarely feel out of control because I know when assignments are due and what I need to do. In this process we build resilience and patience and it makes us better and more receptive to our own needs and others. Take care

I can't go to another school I am in the last year of college so for where I live that is the year before university and I already did that last year when I wasn't being assessed in my classes so now this year I don't have any options. Thank you for replying though.

[StillIntending]

I'm so sorry to hear that, Eden. I'm about to go enter my senior year of high school, and I fear how well I'll be able to hold up myself. I'm homeschooled, but that doesn't at all mean that I don't have many subjects that I need to work hard in to complete. I have one friend supporting me, even helping me with schoolwork actually. I guess all I can really say is that finding even one person to let into your life can make a world of difference. Best of luck to you.

No one would do that for me people dont like me that much plus i cant really hang out with people much because of my OCD

Good luck with your senior year.

[StillIntending]

Originally Posted by eden1515

No one would do that for me people dont like me that much plus i cant really hang out with people much because of my OCD

Good luck with your senior year.

Ah. I'm sorry to hear that. Well, in the end, sometimes you need to remember that if you're trying your best, you won't have anything to be ashamed of in the aftermath, whatever that may be. I hope you can pull through. Even if you want though, if you've tried your hardest, that is a success in and of itself. You're fighting a hard battle. Even just trying can be extremely hard to do.

I don't think I will ever succeed.

[StillIntending]

Originally Posted by eden1515

I don't think I will ever succeed.

I know, I'm so sorry. Please just try anyway. You may surprise yourself, and even if you do fail, you will know that you gave it your best effort. That is worth something. You are worth something. This year will no doubt be hard for you, I may as well not try to deny that, but it will be worth it in the end. It will. You may not be able to see it, but it will.

I doubt it but I hope so.

[StillIntending]

Originally Posted by eden1515

I doubt it but I hope so.

[Rose76]

I'm sorry you are feeling so bad. Most parents will not give their teenage children the option of not going to school. While they can force you to go to school, they can't really force you to work at your studies. So you are going, physically, but you are not participating in the academic work. It sounds like you may be unhappy in your social relations at school and feeling depressed. This is something that should be discussed with your family doctor. Seeing a therapist might help you.

Is there something going on in your home that gets you demoralized?

[Rose76]

Originally Posted by eden1515

No one would do that for me people dont like me that much plus i cant really hang out with people much because of my OCD

Good luck with your senior year.

Who told you that you have OCD? There are people with OCD who have friends, but the specific symptoms might be different from what you are experiencing.

Feeling disliked is probably the source of you feeling so low.

[Bipolar Warrior]

Sorry you're having a hard time, Eden. You are not alone; I, too, struggle with school. I have spent five years on a bachelor degree that should have only taken three years. I've been trying to complete my final year of uni for three years now, and it just seems so insurmountable at this point in time. I feel like no matter what I do, it will not be good enough, anyway, so why bother?

But then I think about how much time and money I've invested in this degree, and I somehow manage to continue. All we can do is try. You can try. And that is good enough, for now.

Hang in there, fellow warrior!

Originally Posted by Rose76

Who told you that you have OCD? There are people with OCD who have friends, but the specific symptoms might be different from what you are experiencing.

Feeling disliked is probably the source of you feeling so low.

My psychologist and psychiatrist told me I had it and it is not that I can't have friends but it makes it very difficult to hang out with friends.

[Rose76]

Friends are what make life worthwhile. I'm trying to envision what you would be doing, if you weren't going to school . . . and what you will be doing a year from now and, then, five years from now.

Having a diagnosis - like OCD - is only half of your problem. The other half of your problem is "managing" your psych disorder, which you will have to do for the rest of your life. If you have a psychiatrist and a psychologist, they should be helping you develop a game plan for how to get through the challenges of daily living. Your plan right now seems to be to just avoid everything. I've done that at a few points in my life. A lot of people here have. But that eventually leads to other problems that you can't avoid.

Any reasonable plan is going to involve forcing yourself to do things that you don't really feel like doing. Your parents won't be around forever. That's part of why you are expected to go to school. Sometimes people do need a break from school or work or whatever. What is it you would like to be doing right now?

I have been diagnosed with OCD , BPD, major Depression, social anxiety and GAD but they are also looking into other things at the moment as well. i am not planing to avoid things but there are a lot of things i just cant do right now. It is complicated.

[BlueStar876]

Originally Posted by eden1515

Thank you i keep meaning to speak to the school but i get so nervous that i back out every time i also seem to go mute when i get nervous so that doesnt help either.

I would push you to make that step though, particularly the school counselor. Maybe you could just print out what you just wrote here originally and it will help you when you go mute. Sometimes also there may be solutions to things that you might not be thinking about right now.

I was worrying about not completing high school, but I realized later that actually I had a lot of options, for example: summer class, online classes. Even though I didn't really like the idea of the options, weighing them against just not finishing high school at all made them preferable.