[IBelongToYou]

I have my final exam in 8-7 months. And if I don't get good grades I am basically screwed.

I did study for 2 hours a single day but I just don't the other days, All I can do is to watch nonsense on youtube, I feel very very awful. everyday is a torture

How can I get myself to study? I should study or at least 5h a day on school days and 13 hours on sat and Sunday to have a future.

How can I get myself to start? I feel like dying!

[Skeezyks]

Hello IBelongToYou: Welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

Honestly, I don't know if there are any specific techniques one can use to get themselves started on something like studying. Perhaps other members, here on PC, may have some suggestions. From what you wrote, I suspect you are struggling under the weight of large load of anxiety & depression. You're feeling as though if you don't get good grades, as you put it, you're basically screwed. This kind of catastrophic thinking puts enormous pressure on a person!

So, from my perspective, one of the answers here is to figure out a way of unloading some of the pressure you're feeling... perhaps by getting into some individual counseling / therapy. Writing about how you're feeling can help to. You can do that here on PC. But reaching out for help in real life is, in general, more powerful.

Beyond that, I guess the other thing that occurs to me is simply to try not to look at the whole mess of studying you need to do. If you can, break it down into more manageable segments & just take it one step at a time. Perhaps work out some kind of study schedule you can follow... one step at a time. This may make the whole process seem at least a bit less daunting!

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!

[alicetailor]

Start with the subject that interests you and eventually increase your study hours.

[IBelongToYou]

Originally Posted by alicetailor

Start with the subject that interests you and eventually increase your study hours.

Thanks a lot
I did break it into segments
It does help. Specially when I'm not feeling horriblly bad which I do most days now :/

I guess as you said. If i reduce my fear of failure and focus on studying i will be much better and focus on the present.

I mean I'm a programmer. I always find a way that's what I do. But still i feel extremely overwhelmed. There's so many problems. Even if i succeed it's not all heaven.

I wish i could but i can't go to therapy

And my main mistake was forcing myself to study theology which i don't like :/

[IBelongToYou]

Also sorry for awful writing. I really hate phone keyboards. I will switch to pc next time...and also relax

[Talthybius]

Have social control.

Study with another person. Make a schedule, one that's realistic, and hold each other to said schedule.

If in your subconscious your own future and results won't make you study, there in my experience is no true way to force your subconscious to study for it.

It is a funny thing. I have this additional test I wanted to take, but don't need to. I imagined I'd have time to squeeze it in at some random time. The test is in two days. I am not even guaranteed to get credit for it. I was busy with other academic work the last couple of weeks. So for the second time, I am passing on this test. I did not study for it at all. I feel no pressure to do so and I am busy doing other academic work. My subconscious knows I don't need that test, so I have no incentive to practice for it. I don't feel the pressure and need to study for it, so I kept delaying starting to study for it. So I never did. Going to withdraw from it right now. My subconscious probably already did that months ago.

You saw you feel like dying, so you do feel pressure. Why can't you channel it somehow?
I mean, if you reason you should feel pressure, but there just isn't anything, not much can be done. But you have it. Use it, somehow.

[Miswimmy1]

Why have you set such a rigorous study schedule per day for an exam that is not for another 8 months? Do you have all of the material already? Or will you be learning new material and adding that on to your list of study topics as you go?

I think that studying 13h on Sat and Sun is a bit excessive. There is no way that you are going to be able to sustain that level of motivation for the next eight months. While I admire your commitment, I believe that it is VITAL that you take some time to just relax and recharge. Go out for the afternoon and do something that makes you happy - take a walk in nature, go shopping, watch a movie, go to the gym, whatever floats your boat. If you have truly been sticking to that study schedule, I am not surprised that you are feeling burned out.

I am curious as to why you think that unless you follow this excessive study schedule, you will be doomed to having no future? What is it that you envision your ideal future to be? What is the worst thing that can happen if your future doesn't play out exactly how you want it to? I will tell you that I have friends who are studying programming and while it is a difficult course load and degree to obtain, it is doable if you learn how to manage your time and priorities (and by doable, I mean that you don't need to sacrifice all of the things you enjoy doing while you work towards your end goal).

It sounds like you are very stressed out and feeling burdened and overwhelmed with the perceived amount of work it will take to reach your goals. I urge you to take a few deep breaths and then let yourself watch some YouTube videos. Allot some amount of time for yourself each day to indulge. And then get back to studying. It's all about balance. You might also want to consider talking to a professional and exploring why you feel like you have to meet such high expectations and why you feel like anything less equates to failure.

[IBelongToYou]

Originally Posted by Miswimmy1

Why have you set such a rigorous study schedule per day for an exam that is not for another 8 months? Do you have all of the material already? Or will you be learning new material and adding that on to your list of study topics as you go?

I think that studying 13h on Sat and Sun is a bit excessive. There is no way that you are going to be able to sustain that level of motivation for the next eight months. While I admire your commitment, I believe that it is VITAL that you take some time to just relax and recharge. Go out for the afternoon and do something that makes you happy - take a walk in nature, go shopping, watch a movie, go to the gym, whatever floats your boat. If you have truly been sticking to that study schedule, I am not surprised that you are feeling burned out.

I am curious as to why you think that unless you follow this excessive study schedule, you will be doomed to having no future? What is it that you envision your ideal future to be? What is the worst thing that can happen if your future doesn't play out exactly how you want it to? I will tell you that I have friends who are studying programming and while it is a difficult course load and degree to obtain, it is doable if you learn how to manage your time and priorities (and by doable, I mean that you don't need to sacrifice all of the things you enjoy doing while you work towards your end goal).

It sounds like you are very stressed out and feeling burdened and overwhelmed with the perceived amount of work it will take to reach your goals. I urge you to take a few deep breaths and then let yourself watch some YouTube videos. Allot some amount of time for yourself each day to indulge. And then get back to studying. It's all about balance. You might also want to consider talking to a professional and exploring why you feel like you have to meet such high expectations and why you feel like anything less equates to failure.

It's called konkur. I live in middle east. I have a ridiculous amount of books I have to read. It's as tall as a mid-tower pc case (if you're into computers.

I still haven't managed to get myself to work

What's worse for me is that I have lost interest in the most important thing in my life. The reason who I am now. I no longer even like computers. I used to go to sleep being excited about what I'm going to learn tomorrow and jump out of bed despite tiredness and code and read 14h a day expect when I was out or etc. I was in love since I was a child. And now everything sounds kind of pointless and that makes me want to just shutdown and just stop living and thinking

The reason I have to go to a good university is to be able to studyand get better and leave my country and have a future. I can't take this country. I'm not designed to live here. I never go out because Ihate reminding myself of where I live. I hate seeing the stupid stuff that happen on the street.

I also have nothing common with anyone here. I basically have no firends to study with. And actually I love being alone (Always did. It's not depression) or maybe having only another person to be with.

I don't want to just wait to die while having no life and working at a crappy shop. I want to improve and learn and do! But sadly becauseof my country I had to give up coding and basically computers. I sold it 2 days ago! And what's worse is I already know I'm gonna forget most of my skills by the end of this

Also my brother and father always fight which is even worse. I have nowhere to study!

[IBelongToYou]

If the old me was here. He would be more then glad to be studying programming. But this isn't peogramm. It's about remembering the peroidic table! It's about remembering every quote the prophets have said. And other nosense! Although I think even if it was about programming I couldn't do it now. All the pain I took has worn me down and killed me. Everyday I walked to school with my own foot and took 6 hours of torture and constant bullying and our school didn't do anything which even encouraged them more. And little by little i felt myself wearing out like a brake disk in a car. I literally knew I was gonna end up like this. And I did. And only now I realize that ehat an amazing person I used to be. As he's dead there's no bragging involved, i have to say he was amazing. He was one of thr best people I have ever seeen although back then I felt like any average human! But now I am awful. My mind has died and now it's just the body here left alone wondering what to do! I remember the first time I got angry I had forgetten how it frlt like since my childhood! The plus side is i never understood why people behave in such a way. And i wanted to know. I got my answer!! I know understand that people are not simply born evil. And I'm afraid just like my father and brother I'm gonna end uo loke thrm. Brainless zombies! Like anyone in this country!

Edit: wow that escalated quickly! Sorry! I came here for study advice and lost my temper :S

[Talthybius]

I sympathize with your situation, though I can't say I can feel what you feel.

I am privileged, I often remind myself. And people in a position like you remind me of that. But I don't feel privileged.

In my country, at age 12 it is basically decided at what academic level your entire career will be And I did terrible at primary school. I was almost send to special education with kids with mild retardation and learning disability/delays. But my parents forgot to sign me up, so I had to go to a normal school at the second lowest level. I never did any homework, ever.
The people I spend my teens with, they weren't intellectually stimulating.

Then somehow through the internet, I met people on the other side of the country that were in the mid tier and upper tier of education. So I wanted to become an intellectual or a scientist. Yet I was in school to become a factory worker/low clerk/service person/technician.

I quit school and wanted to get into university. It took me 10 years to collect my wits and bravery and apply for the entrance exam. At age 31 I finally got in and now I am a top 10% student in a top 50 university.

All that time, my father supported me financially, and still does. I got like 40 shots to succeed one time. I'd have gotten 40 more. I realize other people get 1 and 2, and then it is over. Yes, I had misfortune as a very young child, where I was powerless to change the course of my life. But if I had grown up in a random country, 98% of the time, I'd be ****ed for life.

I don't know what to say.

My guess is you have a great insight into your country and how it is better not to have to live there all your life. But apparently, fear isn't enough of a motivation for you. The best motivation is to learn for the sake of learning. My own motivation or a mystery to me. It used to be a big problem. I used to be extremely rebellious and refuse to learn anything I didn't feel like learning about. I'd show my teachers how insignificant I thought their subject was by not learning a damn thing about it. Well, once they figured that out, they went out of their way to sabotage me, when I was already doing enough to sabotage myself.

What is really so bad about learning the periodic table?

Anyway, I'd make the same suggestion again. Find someone to study with and cut all the stuff you need to learn into smaller manageable pieces, using a realistic schedule.

You have no friends? I thought I could go through life without any. I was wrong. If I am wrong, you surely are.

Also, you don't need to be friends. You only both need to be people that need to study.

In the end, there is only one person that cares about your life, your happiness, and that person is you. Make sure you have no regrets.

I know that when I was struggling, and I guess I still am, no one, friend or stranger, had the power to tell me something and to really change my life .Even the most flawless advice would have left me unaffected. Maybe the same is trur for you. But at least I tried my best.