I'm starting to seriously regret starting college. They want to work me way too hard after only being just starting a week ago. How the hell am I even supposed to do what they're wanting me to do? It's not like anybody ever taught me how to study and remember information properly. Expecting me to do everything on my own this quickly is asking too much out of me.

College is too hard and the reward is beginning to not seem like it's worth the work to me. I couldn't care less about an Associate's degree, especially if I have to stay two whole years living in a state that I'm utterly miserable in just to earn one. I don't find value in a college degree because I want to be an entrepreneur anyways and many entrepreneurs are college dropouts.

The only reason why I started college in the first place is so I could have an easier way to get my needs met. Work study jobs are much easier to obtain than regular jobs and leftover Pell Grant money that remains unused for college related purposes is great to use as startup funds for an online business but they are making me wait weeks to get my refund. There is also the free therapist for students which I need since I can't afford a therapist on my own and there is other resources available for me to make my life easier.

So yeah, if they don't give me a job I'm done with this so called college that is really a scam as soon as my refund disbursements arrive.

So you've just started college and are expecting a job right away? From what I have read in your past threads, I think the problem here is that you are very entitled and expect things to be handed to you. Part of life and achieving things is working towards a goal, yet you seem to want things handed to you on a silver platter. Unfortunately that is not how it works. Welcome to the adult world. College is hard work. Any job out there involves doing work. That's just how it is.

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

So you've just started college and are expecting a job right away? From what I have read in your past threads, I think the problem here is that you are very entitled and expect things to be handed to you. Part of life and achieving things is working towards a goal, yet you seem to want things handed to you on a silver platter. Unfortunately that is not how it works. Welcome to the adult world. College is hard work. Any job out there involves doing work. That's just how it is.

Damn straight I'm entitled. My whole life has been a living hell, therefore, I deserve to live the rest of my life actually being happy for once in my life.

Don't judge me.

Not that it ****ing matters anyways. My mother was right, I will never be able to take care of myself. I'm never going to be able to function on my own.

It's not my fault that I have a diminished IQ and difficulty learning because the public school system and my mother failed me horribly.

I can struggle all I want but my best is never good enough.

Oh well, at least I have other advantages.

I can certainly empathize with having had a rough go in life, and I imagine several members here can as well. Unfortunately, going through a rough start does not mean that the rest of our lives will be smooth sailing. In fact, people like us who have had to endure past challenges may have to work even harder than the average population to get what we want in life.

It sounds like you are stuck in the past, how you have been mistreated and those who are to blame (like your mother). Unfortunately, staying stuck in the past will do you no good moving forward in life. However, it is your choice on what to focus on. If you want to stay stuck on the injustices done to you in the past, then that is your call. But I hope you will be able to move past that someday.

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

I can certainly empathize with having had a rough go in life, and I imagine several members here can as well. Unfortunately, going through a rough start does not mean that the rest of our lives will be smooth sailing. In fact, people like us who have had to endure past challenges may have to work even harder than the average population to get what we want in life.

It sounds like you are stuck in the past, how you have been mistreated and those who are to blame (like your mother). Unfortunately, staying stuck in the past will do you no good moving forward in life. However, it is your choice on what to focus on. If you want to stay stuck on the injustices done to you in the past, then that is your call. But I hope you will be able to move past that someday.

Believe me, I want to move past my past and I want to work through my issues.

Unfortunately, I can't be expected to do this on my own.

How the hell am I supposed to do anything when it's a struggle for me to get my basic needs met?

I just want somebody to help guide me.

I need to feel safe but I don't.

I accept that I'm weak and pathetic.

[Quarter life]

Hi DarknessIsMyFriend.

College or University is certainly a big change...and taking this on is certainly going to be a steep learning curve one week in. This said...there are many advantages to College education... like building lasting friendships, boosting self esteem through academic achievement,learning how to take on responsibility and accepting that we are in charge of our failures....all invaluable life lessons. Higher education isn't like secondary school where students are spoon fed and told exactly what to do. College students are fully in charge of their own education...you get out of it what you put in. How much of yourself you want to invest is totally in your hands...but how much or little you invest will be reflected in your grades.

I suggest you 'stay the course' for the time being, whilst striving to network with other students and faculty, and seek out resources that will assist you in time management and research relevant to your subjects. After a time if you feel that your workload is still too overwhelming...then you would do well to chat with the college 'Student Adviser' on what your options are. It may be as simple as deferring one or two subjects to lighten your workload...with College it never has to be all or nothing.

Be kind and generous to yourself DarknessIsMyFriend...and all the best moving forward with your studies and future goals.

Originally Posted by Quarter life

Hi DarknessIsMyFriend.

College or University is certainly a big change...and taking this on is certainly going to be a steep learning curve one week in. Higher education isn't like secondary school where students are spoon fed and told exactly what to do. College students are fully in charge of their own education...you get out of it what you put in. How much of yourself you want to invest is totally in your hands...and what you invest will be reflected in your grades.

I suggest you 'stay the course' for the time being, whilst striving to network with other students and faculty, and seek out resources that will assist you in time management and research relevant to your subjects. After a time if you feel that your workload is still too overwhelming...then you would do well to chat with the college 'Student Adviser' on what your options are. It may be as simple as deferring one or two subjects to lighten your workload...with College it never has to be all or nothing.

Be kind and generous to yourself DarknessIsMyFriend...and all the best moving forward with your studies.

At least you are actually giving me helpful advice that is free of judgment, unlike some people.

I will do that then. I'm going to go have a talk with academic advising today and see about getting some help.

Still though, if I am this stumped over a simple essay than I'm probably not college material anyways. Only time will tell I guess.

[TheDragon]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

Believe me, I want to move past my past and I want to work through my issues.

Unfortunately, I can't be expected to do this on my own.

How the hell am I supposed to do anything when it's a struggle for me to get my basic needs met?

I just want somebody to help guide me.

I need to feel safe but I don't.

I accept that I'm weak and pathetic.

At the end of the day, the only person you can consistently depend on to be there for you is yourself. You can wait for people to come and help you and guide you and take care of your basic needs, but that'll never be a guarantee. Take control of your own life day by day.

You should also look for help and support from wherever else you can, but don't wait for that, expect that or depend on that. Figure out what you need and what your goals are and break it down into small steps.

It'd be nice if after people suffered they got taken care of in return, but most of the time, those who have suffered and struggle have to work harder to get to where they want to be.

Life will change for the better the day you say, "I am capable and I will do this no matter what it takes," instead of "Why is everything so hard and unfair for me?"

I'm going to stick it out with the college. Since summer semester goes by faster, if I get too overwhelmed and start getting bad grades I will just drop the class that's proving difficult for me and take it in the fall when I have more time to focus and get things done.

It's not like I have much of a choice anyways. I need stability in my life first and foremost and if I bailed on college when I got my refund and reinvested that money into a cheap online business venture like I was considering doing, there is no guarantee that I would be able to support myself with the amount of money I would make and it seems like getting a student job would be my best bet. I'm already networking with a couple of managers and getting help with my job interviewing skills so perhaps there is hope for me yet.

[TheDragon]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

I'm going to stick it out with the college. Since summer semester goes by faster, if I get too overwhelmed and start getting bad grades I will just drop the class that's proving difficult for me and take it in the fall when I have more time to focus and get things done.

It's not like I have much of a choice anyways. I need stability in my life first and foremost and if I bailed on college when I got my refund and reinvested that money into a cheap online business venture like I was considering doing, there is no guarantee that I would be able to support myself with the amount of money I would make and it seems like getting a student job would be my best bet. I'm already networking with a couple of managers and getting help with my job interviewing skills so perhaps there is hope for me yet.

There ya go! Now you're on the right track. It's good to come up with plans and goals when you can, and remind yourself of them when you're down on yourself. Nothing is easy and the only hope you can earn for yourself is seeing your plans through.

Just remind yourself that you can and will do it, and keep your options open.

Glad to read you are sticking it out.

Often there are student tutors available to help. Professors always want to be asked if there are struggles at the beginning-I'd bring it up to my instructor, tell him/her you are concerned since everything is new to you, that you are on an unlevel playing field. There also may be accommodations if you have a disability.

I dropped out of high school and didn't start college until over a decade later. I didn't have the background others had, but once I figured it all out, my 'street smarts' and work experience helped me excel well beyond those who had the prep from high school.

Perhaps you could try to push your emotions aside while you focus on getting through it, finishing? Burn through it all. Try not to let everything get you down and focus on your goal to achieve stability.

[Retnick]

Take it from someone who dropped out of college that it's a bad idea. No one takes dropouts seriously unless you happen to be a genius.
The only jobs I can get are lousy driving positions. Trust me, don't do it.
In fact, I'm considering re-enrolling, but I still have the same mental health issues.
And I swear this is not a plug but I heard of this place on the radio, it's based in Nyc and is non-residential. If you have the money I would consider it:
Collegereentry.org

Originally Posted by Retnick

Take it from someone who dropped out of college that it's a bad idea. No one takes dropouts seriously unless you happen to be a genius.
The only jobs I can get are lousy driving positions. Trust me, don't do it.
In fact, I'm considering re-enrolling, but I still have the same mental health issues.
And I swear this is not a plug but I heard of this place on the radio, it's based in Nyc and is non-residential. If you have the money I would consider it:
Collegereentry.org

I would argue otherwise.

While it is true that it can be harder to obtain jobs in some fields without a college education, we live in a day and age where many normal jobs are becoming obsolete in favor of technology.

Freelance and self employment opportunities via the internet are becoming more and more common place. Becoming an entrepreneur is easier now than it has ever been thanks to the internet. One just needs to be able to think outside the box and take advantage of one of the many opportunities out there.

Even if you do work a regular job, there are plenty of fields that you can get into with certifications or trade school experience alone. Anything in the IT or computer science field or any job that has apprenticeships are some other examples that I can think off the top of my head.

Not to mention, with more and more people getting college degrees and the costs of tuition going up, I would argue that getting a degree at a major university isn't worth it because of how much student debt one would get in from it while the college degree itself being less valuable due to more people having them now than ever before.

I will be sticking it out for now for the sole purpose of utilizing them for resources like employment, free therapists, and other resources to make surviving easier for me. However, my ultimate goal is self employment and as soon as I get to the point to where I can make decent money on my own self employed, you bet I'm dropping out to actually enjoy my life for once.

[Retnick]

It seems like you're more of a self starter so you might be ok. Me, I'm not the type. I can't work for myself because I'm not a go getter, and I need a structured work environment in order to reach my full potential. Finishing college would've been ideal in my case.

[nancyrammbo]

I'm glad I spent time on college. Thanks to this, I now have a good job So my circle of contacts expanded. Thanks to my broad outlook, I became more successful.