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Jun 03, 2009, 06:05 PM
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Need I say more? After almost 6 years...
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Jun 04, 2009, 11:07 AM
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Failed? Such a strong word. You know, I have never failed in my life. The word just isn't in my vocabulary. Oh, I have had road blocks and challenges that I had to figure out how to get around but I have never failed. I don't think that you failed either..............
You SI for a reason. What is that reason and how else can you deal with this?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jun 04, 2009, 11:49 AM
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I am guessing the reason is, is that it is what I have always done. It is what I am used to doing. Punishment works well for me, always has. I guess I say I failed, because I had gone so long witout doing it. Right now nothing else was working so I went back to old habits I suppose. Now I have to figure out how to change this. Thanks for responding, it was helpful.
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Jun 04, 2009, 11:58 AM
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jun 04, 2009, 12:53 PM
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Jun 05, 2009, 08:31 AM
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jun 05, 2009, 08:36 AM
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6 years is wonderful - well done - dont forget to give yourself a pat on the back for that
 so now you start again - but you know you can do it because you HAVE done it and you can do it again - second by second if necessary - I hope you have a T to help you through this - dont let this trip keep you down - you ar human - this happens - geez I know that so well !  take care of yourself ok - stay safe 
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts  its how many times you get back up!   (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Jun 05, 2009, 04:55 PM
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Trying too.
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Jun 05, 2009, 04:57 PM
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Thanks phoenix7. I did mention it to my T but didn't talk about it yet. Had too much other things to talk about. Thanks again!
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Jun 05, 2009, 07:13 PM
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 I feel like I have failed so many times and it is a horrible and stuck feeling. For me it's punishing myself and there is a part of me that thrives on it - the internal self abuse that I do. I really believe that SI is reaction - why would you choose to hurt yourself? You wouldn't as b/c for the last 6 years you have been doing other things. This was a reaction and you are not wrong, bad, a failure, incapable of getting past this, you are doing the best you can and that is pretty awesome regardless of what your head is telling you. So can you take a moment to write yourself a note of kindness, allow that part of you to write it down? The part that is hurting and feels vulnerable and wants to get better but is struggling right now.  You did the best you could in the moment and it's ok and you will be ok. So if you are feeling like you let yourself down, you didn't. You took the time to post here, talked to your T, are dealing (not running away) from some real issues in your life and are willing to learn and explore about what is going on.  That is not failure - that is being courageous and honest. You fell down and it sounds to me like you are taking the steps to get back up. Most importantly, please be gentle with yourself. You are growing and learning and how can that be wrong? Keep posting and letting us know how you are doing. |
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Jun 08, 2009, 02:20 PM
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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