[ickydog2006]

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!TRIGGER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you have a hard time coming up with reasons to quit or are having trouble quitting PLEASE don't read this post.

What bennefit will it do me (not my friends) to quit cutting.

I'm still going to be depressed
I'm still going to be mad at myself
I'm still going to feel ashamed for what I have done
I'm still going to have the scars

I'm going to have worse panic attacks
I'm going to have a harder time leaving the house
I'm going to face more stress
I'm going to have less ways to deal with stress

The pros seem to way out weigh the cons

[Rapunzel]

You will have to actually deal with the stress, and that is scary and hard, but as long as you keep using this method to escape from it, it doesn't ever go away. It just gets bigger. You might not feel it for a little while, but it keeps coming back. If you truely face your problems and deal with them, they will get smaller and you will be able to overcome them and actually be able to live your life. Depression and anxiety are what happen when you are not living your life.

[Miss_A]

Why quit? You ask....
Because self harm doesn't just do damge to yourself, it does a lot to others as well. Yea, sure why quit now. It's never to late too. seems impossible but I know some people who have. Your life will get better once you quit self harming and trying to be happy. Promise, you can do this. I've never seen someone who can't do anything. Throw the object your using away. Start a new you. Have us to talk to. You will feel worse if you continue. Sincerely, Miss_A.

[irish_angel]

When I was younger in my teens and was burning, the few times I cut and the many many times ive busted my hands on brick walls....Now I have arthritis is my wrists, knees, have no feeling in 2 of my finger tips, have to wear long sleeve shirts to hide the burn marks.... I am now 29 years old with 2 amazing children who are 10 and 1, and when I cant get down and play with them some days because of the pain....

That is why I quit....In the long run it does a world of good.Now I deal with the pain of WHY did I do that??

*hugs* and good luck in your struggle to find inner peace. If there is anything I can do please let me know.

[BamaSurvivor]

Let's try why SHOULD you quit, just for a minute.

No more scaring up your body
No more having to explain where new cuts come from
No more 'coating' the problem with another problem
No more having to hide your emotions
No more hurting family and friends by your cutting
Best of all, no more abusing your body.
There's many reasons NOT to cut, just like you feel there's many reasons to cut.

I used to be a daily cutter... Have over 50 scars on my body from cutting. For the past 3 or 4 months, I haven't cut at all. I've thought about it, but haven't acted on it. Why? Cutting was helping me with my anxiety, it was making me feel relief, it was even helping me sleep better at night. So why quit? Because every morning I'd wake up and my problems were right there again and I'd have to cut again to numb them out for a short amount of time. You see, your problems don't go away because you're cutting them out, they are only covered up for a short amount of time. They rise up again the more you avoid the actual problem. By facing the problem as it comes makes the problem go away A LOT quicker, I promise you this. Yes, it's hard facing problems on lifes terms instead of your own terms, its VERY hard. But it can be done, I promise you it'll make you a stronger person. Please, please, please think about what everyone has said here. We care about you and your well being. I hope you can come to terms with everything and sort out your problems without the help of a blade. Best of wishes to you.

[ickydog2006]

It just seems so hopeless sometimes. I nnow understand how much I actually hurt myself. I use to act like it was no big deal. I couldn't feel the damage cause I did it so much. Now I quit doing it on my wrist. The scars are always going to be there and I don't feel bad about adding more. I can't move the one hand llike the other and everytime I move it my wrist tingles. It just is so calming. So far(besides that) it hasn't made my problems worse. Sure it covers my problems...but it doesn't feel like it makes them worse. I sometimes wonder about getting rid of my blade, but I can't get myself to leave the house without it. As long as I know it is there I can make it through the day. Keeping it with me is what my solution was to quit cutting it everyday. I am trying to get better and now I sorta see your point...after typing this...yeah I was wrong...maybe it does make problems worse...but it takes away as many as it makes. I'm sorry. Thank you guys for being here. It is nice knowing I have someone I can talk to about these things.

[Miss_A]

You can do this, I believe in. I know it seems so hopeless, but it's not. When ever you feel ready throw the blade away. So that you are no longer worring whether to use it or now every day. There's no need to add more pain to what you are already feeling. Sure, we all have our own problems. But together we CAN solve them. Trying and never giving up seems to be the best thing to do. The thing you are using to cut yourself, if no good. It's your best friends, it's your emeny. It wants you to not feel good about yourself. All the germs on this thing. You don't need it. What you need is someone there to talk too and having a teddy bear with me helps a lot. When thinking that no one likes you. Now that is impossible because mr teddy bear wouldn't hate you at all. For being you and yet no one is perfect. I've made loads of misakes in my life time, but I've learned to stop and control myself from doing so. Have you read the top sticky posts of this S/I forum could help you a lot more. But it's down to you. You could continue to keep going on cutting yourself, letting the blade win and destorying your body more and see your loved ones get hurt and feel there pain end up in hospital. The doctor says your a lucky one to make it alive. You cry and think why? or Throw the blade away find someone that is easy to talk too. Go to groups and join clubs. Be yourself. You are not dumb, evil, horrible etc....
You are friendly, nice, understandable and loads more.
I can see what you are like inside. You are just worth so much more. Go to curch and seek for advice even if it's not your thing, it can help a lot. You said that your sorry and well this might sound harsh. But don't be sorry if you are still doing it. Be sorry for what you have done in the past. Wow, typing a lot and listining to calmimg music just works for me. I have nothing more else to say, but that there is hope out there. Take care of yourself and feel fre to PM me whenever. I use to be a selfharmer but I stoped before I did the real damage. My scars are with me but are slowly fading away. I have learnt something from this and well I guess you'll have to work it out for yourself, to truely understand it.
Sincerely, Miss_A.

[BamaSurvivor]

You have no reason to be sorry, icky. What we have is an addiction, an addiction that sometimes is worse than drug addiction, and that's pretty darned strong. Instead of being sorry, be HOPEFUL. Hopeful that things can change if you put your mind to it and things CAN get better. I've heard the saying, "It can only get better from here", well, if you've hit rock bottom, then things can start getting better if you want them to... If not, then move that rock to the side and keep digging a little deeper. You get what I'm saying? Things can always get worse, but if you want help and you want to feel normal and you want a life that's better than what you're living, you can make it happen.

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