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Location: UK
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Oct 24, 2005 at 12:47 PM
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If you are in a relationship, does your partner know about your SI? Did you tell them or did they find out?
I've only been with my boyfriend a few weeks. The night we offically got together, we were talking about some difficulties I have and he asked if I did it and I nodded. He's brought it up a few times since, not in a nasty way, but he expects me to tell him when I do it, because I often binge drink and take drugs at the same time, and am potentialy dangerous to myself. He wants to know about the "episodes" I have. But how can I tell him that? If your partner knows, how do they deal with it? |
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Oct 24, 2005 at 05:29 PM
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Yes my partners know I cut. If we make it to the bedroom they are going to see the scars anyway and without my telling them they will know so I prefer not to go as far as that intimate moment and then suddenly hear "Oh sh-- what accident were you in" or other various comments. So by the time we reach that point the person already knows I cut. When they hear it from me they are not so shocked and can understand why I need that release. And most times are very willing to help come up with other forms of release so that I am not cutting while I am with them.
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Oct 26, 2005 at 06:29 AM
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Though my relationship is years old and we are married--not young like yours... Yes, he knows, I told him. A little at first to see his reaction and to guard myself against rejection. Since then, I've told him everything he's very understanding and supportive. Hope things go well for you =) </font> |
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Oct 27, 2005 at 05:09 AM
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telling a new partner you si is going to be hard, at any time, dont judge them for it, give them time to adjust, if it is something THEY cant deal with, then that is not the person you need in your life, reason, they are judgeing you, not a good formula for any relationship, if you want to let someone know that you si, if you si on your arms or wrist, let your sleeve slide up on a date so that they see it, dont make a comment till they do, if it is in more personal spaces like legs, belly, thighs, ankles, and i know you are going to rip me to pieces for this, but remember i is a man, a man that has si'ed for the last 18 years, so i have had this in reverse, if he dont ask, dont tell.
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Grand Poohbah
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Location: Arizona
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Nov 02, 2005 at 12:49 AM
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Yes all my parnters in the past have known, mine are on my upper arms. Usually, it occurs early in the relationship and usually while we're cuddling or something. They'll run over it with thier hands and then stop and look at it and ask what it's from and I just look at them and I say, oh I did that. The reactions have been sad, angry and accepting. No matter what the reaction, if he truly likes you he will accept you for who you are! *hugs* and best wishes!
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