[LittleMilly]

I have this friend who cuts,
cuts to keep her boyfriend,
i wonder why she does,
such a thing that pulls me down,
those things can be seen,
seen as attention seeking behaviors,
what to say to help her,
how can i help her,
her boyfriend,
he doesnt like her,
he told me that,
he is a good friend

Milly

[Fuzzybear]

If she cuts in order to try to hold onto her boyfriend, it probably would be classified as attention seeking behaviour. I would think she must be distressed though. Has she shown other signs of distress? Can you ask her WHY she cuts? Who has hurt her? Parents? School friends? Why does she need to behave in this way?

[deepblue]

i do not think that any one who cuts is attention seeking, but my husband does as he said so myself last year, he was cold and unsympathetic towards my outburst ,he told me to leave i started to cry ,why he was the reason i cut myself but he could not see that as i tried to tell him the reason he just cuddled me and we talked about me loving him.

i think i do but am still unsure !!!!!!

keep smiling

[ickydog2006]

I sort of doubt that she cuts to keep him on purpose, it seems more likely that she would cut to comfort herself and feel release from the fear that she has of him leaving.

That's just my thoughts on the matter, I could be wrong.

I have known a few cutters who cut for attention, but very few, and most of them got to where they were addicted and couldn't quit... i.e. they no longer did it for attention but they felt as if they couldn't live without it.

I'd be interested to know her feelings on the matter, if she thinks she cuts for attention.