[Babyorca03]

How do you fight the urge to hurt urself? i have been feelin the urge for a couple of days now and it is getting stronger and stronger and i am getting weaker and weaker help
nikki

[Rapunzel]

Nikki,
Think of how you will feel about it afterwards. Will you be disappointed in yourself, or will someone else be? Weigh the costs and benefits, just like making any decision. I probably shouldn't say this, but sometimes I don't find that the costs outweigh the benefits, and I go ahead and do it, and consider it a rational decision. Sometimes I think that totally forbidding it all at once just puts too much pressure on you and can even make you want to do it more. If you have permission to decide either way, and not to feel bad whatever you decide, maybe just knowing that you have the control and the option, it might actually be easier to decide not to do it. It really doesn't solve anything, but why beat ourselves up about it if it's what we need to do? Just so it doesn't get out of control and make things worse.

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Wendy

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[Babyorca03]

thanks, when i do it i see the pain in my friends and familys eyes and that alone keeps me ok, but i do spend a lot of time alone, and those times are the worst, right now i am ok, just have the overwhelming urge to hurt myself i don't know what is causing it maybe i will dig to try to find it and fix it not sure
nikki

[galadriel]

At the moment I have been having the same sort of urge. But each time I do not cut myself I try and feel proud and happy of that and feel that although I am on the edge and so close I am not yet that far gone and I can pull myself away from it. It is so hard but be pleased each time you resist and dont be too hard on yourself if you do hurt yourself.

"I will not fear. Fear is the Mind-killer. Fear is the little death that causes total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. Where it has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain"

[SweetCrusader]

Something that has helped me is to talk to someone I know I can trust not to freak out on me. I talked to my roommate once. I told her that I take responsibility for my actions, but that I needed to know someone else was looking out for me to. I told her straight up that I wanted to hurt myself. She asked me what I was feeling that I thought I was unable to deal with. I was really confused, but I told her as much as I could understand about my feelings and that helped me gain some clarity. And I asked her to keep an eye out, and told her point blank what behaviors would indicate that I was about to, or had just, cut. If you have someone in your life who will not panic on you if you ask them for help, they can be a great resource. It takes courage to ask for their help and admit your struggle, but it can be so helpful. If you don't have someone in your life that you can talk to, you can try posting on this site and asking someone to go in the chat room and talk you through it, too. The main thing is to try to identify your feelings and communicate them to an understanding person.

Best wishes! We are here for you!!!!

SweetCrusader

[Babyorca03]

thats a good i dea.
nikki

[SweetCrusader]

Hey if you ever need to talk and there isn't somebody to chat with on this site, or even if you just want to talk to someone who has specifically offered to chat with you, you can find me on yahoo messenger (email address: angelaurora82@yahoo.com) or msn messenger (youhavewalls@hotmail.com). I don't know if you use either of those, but if you do, I'd be happy to talk with you. Just send me a message and let me know who's sending it! If I'm at my desk, I promise to talk you through it!

I am here for you!
Best wishes,
Angela (SweetCrusader)

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