I went to this recovery group for the first time tonight. I thought I could work through some codependent issues. Well everyone went around and shared there story or at least a small part of it. I did share very small ammount. After the group is over we all eat and get to know each other. NOT. Everyone sat in there little clicks and no one invited me in. Not even any of the other new people. I felt like I was in high school again. Very alone and abanded. I finally just got up and left. I am not going back. No one wants me there obviously. This stupid group made me hate myself. I want to $#@!@#$ SI so bad right now. So close. NO NO NO NO NO. You don't want to go back to this. You will lose to much from one incident. Not worth it. NO NO NO. Cope me cope. AAHHHHHHH. Hun you don't have to see thoes people ever again. You are better than them. You know we can get through this togeather. Just keep your head on straight. What can you do. I can paint, sew, watch tv, music, clean. I dont want to I just want to SI. Where is that going to get you hun. Hospital, Feeling guilty later on, people that really do care being mad. I want to be in the hospital no one can hurt me there. That is not true just because you are locked up don't mean you can't be hurt. OK I can get through this I just got through a week of hell. I need to play a computer game that will help. I think I will play Zuma. Thank you for helping me. I will talk later if I need more help.

[bipolar_bear]

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((twirls))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I am so sorry that happened. It must have hurt very much to feel rejected from a group you went to for support. I am glad you are working on other coping mechanisms than harming yourself. I am here if you want someone to talk to.

BB

[Soidhonia]

(((TWIRLS))). I am sorry that you had a bad experiene at group the other night. Is there a facilitator of the group? If so you may want to call them and tell them that you felt put out by their behavior when you went the first evening of the group. I do not feel that it is right to give up without first trying to get things in order so you may be able to get the support you need. If you are in the United States and can not call yourself. I will be able to call for you if you PM me and give me the information to call the facilitator of the group, and see why the group is being ran in this manner it is not appropriate for individuals with mental health issues and facilitaors have rules as well. (whether they choose to disclose that fact). I am sorry that you were treated in this manner, hopefully if you call the facilitator of the group things will go differently at the next meeting. Take care. Soidhonia.

[Rapunzel]

Twirls, I know that feeling of reaching out for help by going somewhere you thought would help, and not feeling heard or understood or accepted. Your story also sounds just like when I tried to join my highschool classmates when they gathered at a pizza place after football games. Nobody had invited me, and I was compltetely alone in the middle of a crowd, and was overwhelmed all the more because I am not comfortable in crowds. I was desperate for someone to invite me to join them, and nobody did, and too scared to invite myself, so I left, feeling about like you did after the recovery group.

I wonder how you tried to let them know that you wanted to be invited to join in? I'm asking because I have learned that I don't send out the right signals. I cower in a corner by myself, and people think that I just want to be alone, or that I'm just tired and don't want to talk to them, or even sometimes they think that I think I'm too good to associate with them (when really I'm terrified that they don't think I'm good enough to associate with them). Just wondering if they might have misinterpreted your signals, and maybe didn't know they were excluding you.

I also want to congratulate you on your self-talk and problem-solving in your post. Yes, you can get through this, and keep yourself safe, and find something constructive to do. You can also come here and talk to us any time. I hope that you know that you are always welcome.

TC,
Rap

Thank you everyone. Part of this was my fault. I did not introduce myself to a single person. I am very shy until I get to know you. The lady who recommended this group is a friend and a moderator. I called her and she is going to introduce me to people if I go again.

<font color="#000088">I know how those recovery groups are, and it's really not you that they don't like. they have just formed friendships from being there together for a period of time. Even the new people are just shy to invite someone over to join them,becuase they just hadn't got to know you!
I'm really sorry you had to go through that abandonment type experience, and I can feel you on that, and how much that must have hurt! But I really think that you had some really good advice for yourself there in your post.
Stick to it, and just know that you're not alone, okay! </font>

[ickydog2006]

(((((((((twirls)))))))))

I'm sorry you had a bad group experience. I did really well with group recovery but I can't imagine how long I would have stayed if that was my first intro into it.

I hope things get better.

Try to stay safe

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((( twirls )))))))))))))))

I suck at groups
(lets face it, I suck!)
Sending gentle thoughts

to you

[Fuzzybear]

Sometimes I don't get people either.

[RiverX]

You did some great self care there!

Actually, if that was a coda group by anychance, quite a few people have that experience. We have made jokes about coda, not sure what the rules are here about being sarcastic, I feel the same as you, I have oftne felt that, I have left meetings in tears, its not you. It just shoulnd be like that. You would probably be more caring to a newcomer on thier own.

well done for sharing what happened, and getting help.

river