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#1
Feb 22, 2008, 10:26 PM
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 I have visited this thread from time to time ,,,,:And I just remembered ,, sometimes we did the burn or cut for a dare .... I use that as example .: I liked the one and the other was more tolerance of pain . Then I learned to re focus ... away from needing pain to ,,,, not hurting others and seeing their expressions when they saw .>>  .Hope I didn't cause hurt as I popped in here with this Post . |
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Feb 24, 2008, 02:15 AM
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It's great that you managed to re-focus and you are right, it does hurt others when they see it happening. For me personally, I know I'm not hurting anyone as know one else knows whats going on but focusing on others is another way of trying to control things.
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Feb 24, 2008, 12:09 PM
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i have looked at your post and wanted to reply but am having a hard time expressing my thoughts in words lately... it's great that you can refocus your thoughts... and your right the pain we cause others because of our choice to si is a very good reason to stop... i don't think anyone knows i cut... but i know that when i am struggling to the place of si... i isolate myself from them... and that hurts them just the same way... my son came to me the other day and asked..."mom, what are we doing wrong?" that kind of pulled me out of it... and i realized that my needing to isolate... to withdraw was hurting them...they are adults... so it's very easy for me to pull inside myself...yes, there are things that they are doing that add to my stress...but, they aren't the reason for my anxiety and depression...lyn
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Mar 11, 2008, 11:41 AM
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anyone,,,,,,,All we can really do ,, is our best to decide what will move us to a place of careing for ourselves . And others will see THAT change and ,,,, maybe never know why ,,,,
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#5
Mar 11, 2008, 11:46 AM
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lyn,,,,,, The more you keep yourself from isolating ,, that maybe will transfer to less cuts ,, and More Heal.
Be Gentle to yourself , lyn.
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Mar 11, 2008, 10:55 PM
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i am trying... sometime isolating "feels safe" i know it isn't it's a hard pattern to break.
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lyn one could do worse then be a swinger of birches. ~robert frost~
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Mar 11, 2008, 11:38 PM
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 >>> lyn ,,, Yes . Introvert is a [place of ] doing safe ,,,,,,Then again a Step outside and time in area that is cheerful may help Ya lyn >>> IDK ,,, Keep sharing here and I do my Best to Understand  T/C >>. lyn. |
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