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Nov 03, 2008, 11:07 AM
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That I hurt myself when I'm mad at someone so I don't have to confront them. I would rather punish myself and hold my problems inside rather than talk them out with someone. I'm upset with one of my friends right now, part of it is me feeling like I'm not good enough, and I cut last night for the first time in a few weeks. I don't know how to stop this, but it's something I have just realized, as in like 5 minutes ago. I just wanted to share this and ask if anyone has had a similar experience or has any ideas.
Thanks.
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Nov 03, 2008, 11:15 AM
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That sounds like what I do.
I explain it by saying, "I don't explode - I implode." Sorry, I don't have any advice. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone. (((hugs))) |
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Nov 03, 2008, 11:45 AM
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I like doing the same thing. however lately i cant seem to shake thought of doing it for no reason whatsoever.
but in regards to your post. i think we all think we should punish ourselves. its our way to avoid bad confrontation. its far easier to punish ourselves than others. Hoping you havea better day. im hanging round for support myself. Colleen |
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Nov 03, 2008, 12:29 PM
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Dazzle, this is an important discovery. Truly getting better involves self discovery and understanding.....
Understanding the whole avoiding confrontation and then being able to overcome it would be a huge victory. I used to be afraid of confrontation. I forced myself to do it anyway, heart beating out of my chest, blood drained from my face...... I worked through it and now it is history. Everyone starts at a different place, however, so everyone would need to figure out where they need to start, what they can handle....
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Nov 03, 2008, 10:09 PM
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Hey! What an awesome realization. Realizing the "why" behind the things we do is the beginning of healing, I think.
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Nov 04, 2008, 02:53 AM
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I am recovering from SI too. I am not recovered. I don't know when/if I'll SI again. Having said this I can share some suggestions that have helped me. When I'm angry and can't confront I can write in my journal what I'm upset about and what I'd like to say to the person I'm upset with. Sometimes the person I'm upset with is me. Also, I know that the more frequently I SI the easier it is to. It can be an addiction so that's why it gets easier and easier the more often and closer in between incidents. Check out the thread about all the things to do instead of. Boatloads of ideas. I already contributed on what to do instead of so I hope you find some answers that will work for you.
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Nov 05, 2008, 12:08 PM
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I agree with the others, awesome realisation!
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