Virginity Issues

I'm struggling in my life on what to do with being a virgin. I'm 21 and I'm really starting to feel like its getting weird. When I was in high school I was a bit shy so it didn't happen. In college I have had five sexual relationships with women where I had quite a bit or oral sex but I didn't have vaginal sex because I was really paranoid about stds/pregnancy and I honestly had no emotional attachment to any of them, except for one girl which I now regret not having sex with. Anyway the big problem I have is that its just not me, I am a sexually open person and the girls I am attracted to are sexually free and never virgins. I'm not moral or religious and I'm (not to be arrogant) a decent looking guy, so it just doesn't fit me. I was hoping to get it out of the way with a girl this year but I just haven't met anyone and now I'm heading towards 22 as a virgin, nearly graduated and I'm honestly starting to feel like a loser. I really don't know what to do because waiting this long has really messed me up, I don't feel like I'm the person I want to be at this stage in my life. I'd love it if I could have a relationship with the girl I lose my virginity to and not have it be casual sex but I don't see any other way. Even then I don't have any opertunities for casual sex in the near future and I'm about to graduate college a virgin which makes me look odd. Ugh I know other people have way worse problems then me and this sounds really stupid but I need some real help here because this is making me miserable inside and I don't know what to do. Thanks, I really do appreciate somebody listening, its a hard thing to talk about to friends and family. Not knocking virginity, its nice in theory to wait for one you like but its not happening for me and its starting to get weird.

Nothing wrong with being a virgin. Sex is a strange thing we all tend to over think it, espessially when there is an issue. You are who you are not some lable, many people would take the fact that you have had oral sex as proff that you are not a virgin any more.

You can choose to wear that lable or not.

I wish I would have waited one of many things I would change if I could.

Just be YOU, and you are not a collection of lables that you and others place onto you, you are a person, an individual be happy about that, being just like everyone else would suck.

I agree it's not that big a deal really - at least you have some sexual experience. It's sounds like you want to have the first experience with someone you care about - so you have to be patient and start establishing some contacts. I think most young people are having sex way too early now. I don't think a young woman would care whether you're a virgin or not - some would even like it. Just make sure you have safe sex and preferably your partner would be on additonal birth control. You might feel more relaxed if you get the birth control out of the way.

I agree with Lynn. Really, I think it's really cool that you've gone this long and if it were me, I would focus my attention on finding "the one" to give my virginity to. I had sex at 13 for the first time and it was SO weird!! Wait, and make this a "gift" for the special one!

Hope it works out for ya