is this normal or completly wrong?

I may be very jaded because of my own experiences with similar situations. Some people will say anything they think you want to hear in order to get what they want. I was in a long distance relationship with a man nine years older than me. In the beginning when he was pursuing me he was extremely supportive of me saying how much he admired me for going back to school. Everything I said I wanted or liked he did too. I thought this is my perfect mate. Six months into the relationship cracks started showing...he lied about his divorce being finalized, he had financial problems. He would always say how much he loved me and I fell for his lines. He also had a bad relationship with his alcoholic abusive father which I thought he had overcome....wrong! I ended up moving in and marrying him. Six months later after he had gone through all of my education money he started abusing me physically and emotionally. It took me seven years to get out of that relationship. I'm telling you this because I hope you will realize long distance relationships can turn into your worst nightmare. I knew only what he wanted me to know, only the people he wanted me to meet. If he had lived close I could run into people that knew him for a long time and had history with him. After my ex husband abused me the second time I called his sister and she said Oh no I didn't think he would do that to you! He almost killed his first wife and convinced his sister that he abused his wife because she was so stupid! At the end of our relationship he told me that if I was stupid enough to believe his lies I deserved to be lied to! I wasted seven precious years that I can never get back that did terrible emotional damage. Another thing I haven't noticed anyone comment on is that you will not be the same person at 25 as you are at 17. Your tastes can change. You may like being submissive but after a few years may want something different. I am not judging your sexual preferences. I like a take charge kind of man that is a little dominate sexually in a playful kind of way that can also handle me taking charge from time to time. Your age and the distance thing are more of a red flag to me along with his statement about you going to school which gave me a flashback of what my ex had said to me. Good luck.

I just read what you posted about not being able to break from this guy. You don't understand why you are attracted to older men. I was the same as you. I finally got therapy during this abusive relationship and realized it had to do with my relationship with my own father. I craved attention from older men because I didn't get that need for a close relationship with my father as a child. I don't know if any of that fits but I'm telling you that if you are in a relationship that from a distance you can't end just imagine how hard it is once you have invested yourself further. It would be so good to see a therapist even for one visit and share these posts and get some professional advice. You are an open person willing to listen to other people's opinions of your situation which is a very positive and mature way to be. I only wish I had done the same.

Thanks for this, too many vulnerable people are being dragged from their home environment into the hell of twisted Internet predators arms. Its interesting too that its not always women who are the "suckers" I know a few guys that have fell into the arms of a savvy online black widow!

sadface, im really sorry about all the heart ach you had to go thru, and by the way, your not stupid. just wanted to let you, and i'll fix this, somehow

UPDATE: ahhhhh! damnit! the more and more i think about it the more i want to leave this loser! he's so immature and just plain not my type. every time he texts me i just groan now. iv been fakeing my orgasims during phone sex too. im sick of texts messages! im sick of him! damn i wish i could just leave this dude. there's another problem too. he has a picture of my tit in his black berry, and im afriad if i let him down to harshly he'll post it on adultfriend finder or one of those porn sites. god he's just annoying

now,now....no need for modesty darling....

i hope your not being sarcastic

I am actually.You leave absolutely nothing to the imagination.I'd love to hear of you learning self love.Nothing wrong with sexuality or bedroom talk....but a woman can be discretionary at the same time....jmo

sooo...im probully a ***** and i have no slef respect just because i showed a naked pic of one of my body parts to a guy. im pretty sure every women have at least once in there life thought about taken a sexy pic because they thouhgt it might be ''fun''. the point is just because i take a naked pic of my body, it doesnt mean im so little bimbo who puts out for every dude she meets. it was a mistake, at the time i thought it would be fun. i think a lot women actully get off on the idea of taken sexy pics, most wouldent do it in real life, but a lot still think of it. does that mean that they have no respect for themsleves? i''ll admit, i do have low slefesteem sometimes, but i do have some dignitity

"........I'd love to hear of you learning self love........" "....Nothing wrong with sexuality or bedroom talk...." <---------you missed these statements?

what do you mean by garphic? im not cornering you or anything i just want to know what do you mean by this

You know the word graphic.Refer to 12/27 your post #13...you clearly used the word yourself.I am quite finished with adding my energy to this thread...I have other things to do...you take care(number is located in upper right corner of post.)

ok if you dont want to pst then don't. rudeness is unesscary. this thread is closed.