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Old Oct 05, 2011, 02:23 PM
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I am bipolar and sex.is driving me right now. My.husband is not interested. Instead he sighed me up on a swinger site so he could watch me have sex with other men. He is a pig. I don't want this. I am now suicidal.

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Old Oct 05, 2011, 02:32 PM
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(((((Morningdove)))))
As an asexual, I cannot relate to your concern, but I just wanted to post that I am thinking of you. I'm sorry that your husband is not being supportive right now - have you tried having a serious talk with him about what you are feeling right now?

Also, are you currently taking medications to balance your mood, do you have a psychiatrist, or a therapist? These are a few questions that come to mind.

Sending you hugs and positive vibes!
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Old Oct 05, 2011, 02:50 PM
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(((((Morningdove)))))
As an asexual, I cannot relate to your concern, but I just wanted to post that I am thinking of you. I'm sorry that your husband is not being supportive right now - have you tried having a serious talk with him about what you are feeling right now?

Also, are you currently taking medications to balance your mood, do you have a psychiatrist, or a therapist? These are a few questions that come to mind.

Sending you hugs and positive vibes!
I am on meds. I called my family doc Monday . I cut my wrist last Thursday. I haven't heard from my doc.since.he said he would get me in to see someone right away. I cut on my wrist again yesterday. He has found someone he wants me to.have sex with. IfI don' t he will.beat me again. He tried this before and I got.out of it but he beat me and tried to kill me. Then he held a gun me and forced me to have sex with him. Because of his actions when I am hypersexual I am.able to keep from having sex with other people. Yes I do get aroused by other me bit so far I have't acted on it because of his abuse. I guess in a way he did me a favor.
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Old Oct 05, 2011, 05:48 PM
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Morningdove,

I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. Does your family doc know what your husband has done? He is an out-of-control abuser who makes you feel horrible about yourself. Is there anyway you can get away from him? Do you have a therapist?
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Old Oct 05, 2011, 06:03 PM
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I asked my family doc for help. I told him what was going on. What my husband is doing. He said he would find someone for me to see right away . The doc never called me back. I have called his office today but was sent to his nurses voice mail when I asked why he hasn't called. Guess he can't find anyone to see me. So no I don't have a therapist. Truth be told I don't trust them anyway.
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Old Oct 06, 2011, 11:06 AM
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Morningdove, first of all, hope you feel my hug and positive vibes.

You immediately need to protect yourself in someway. Can't you escape to a friend's or relatives place. Even that will only help you to get calm and plan for the necessary action-report your husband. By all means he sounds seriously sick and you need to get the police.

Take deep breaths and think how you can get out of this relationship as fast as you can.
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Old Oct 06, 2011, 01:31 PM
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you need to be safe first of all - is there somwhere you can go? a refuge?
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Old Oct 08, 2011, 06:15 PM
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My husband will not let me leave the house by myself. He goes with me everywhere. I saw my doc on Thursday. I told him everything. He is disgusted with my husband. He wanted to calorie police or the D.A. I cannot do that. If he is arrested, he will get bail and then I am dead. He has tried to kill me in the past.
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Old Oct 08, 2011, 06:32 PM
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This sounds like more of a problem with your husband. He seems very dangerous. I would try to find a way to get away from him. See what options are available that would let you do it safely. There are safe houses, restraining orders - heck, maybe they'd hide you. I'm not sure. You'd need to speak to someone in the know about these things. Also, if he has a tendency to stalk you, remember to delete your internet history. Good luck and be safe.
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Old Oct 09, 2011, 09:01 AM
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You NEED to protect yourself. Period.

Pick up courage to report him for a reason it becomes impossible for him to get back at you.

Think of ways to build a super strong case against him.
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Old Oct 11, 2011, 03:59 PM
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call police to take you to a battered women's shelter first. your hubby cannot find the shelter. then you can petition the courts for a protection order. doesn't necessarily stop the man, mine didn't, but if police are called he will be sent to jail, hearing before a judge for comtempt of court-fines plus more jail time. i repeatedly went to his contempt of court hearings. i repeatedly called 911. it worked but the experience the last time terrified me. but the police got there and they had had enough with his behavior. they weren't gentle, need i say more. DON'T LET ANYTHING STOP YOU from getting help. it's often a process but i'm a success story cause i didn't give up. many, many women are killed cause they didn't get help. the death statistic nationally is staggering.
get help. stay safe.
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Old Oct 14, 2011, 10:45 AM
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The thing is if I do what you did there will be no calling the police. The first time he gets to me I will be dead. I have knife cuts on my throat and a cigarette burn on my arm from him as of yesterday. I stood up for myself and told him I wouldn't have sex with other men so he could watch. Now I am cut and burned and if I keep.saying no worse will happen.
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Old Oct 14, 2011, 08:59 PM
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You really need to get out of that situation ASAP.
No one should be treated the way you do. Call cops, and go. Leave and never go back, you do not deserve this!!

Thinking of you!! (please, be safe)
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Old Oct 20, 2011, 04:16 PM
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I saw a new therapist yesterday. I had cut on my wrist a month ago and my family doctor knows about it and why I did it. He set me up with a female therapist thank God. My husband did't have a choice but to let me see her. My doc told him I needed it for my bi polar or he would put me in the hospital. Thank my doc forever. I like my new T. I haven't had one in years. She understands the hypersexuality and my not wanting to do the swinging my husbands wants. She is worried for my safety. He burned me with a cigarette four more times and cut on my chest some. She doesn't' like that I live in the woods. She says it is not a good place to live considering my situation. Can't change my situation. My hubby has health issues and is a lot older than me. All I can do is wait for him to pass. Right now I am no longer hypersexual. Yippee for now. I also am bleeding bad from my kidneys and have developed an infection so I can't be forced to have sex with anyone. You can use your imagination as to why my kidneys sudden stated bleeding so bad it looked like I was passing almost pure blood with clots in it. Hey things can't get any worse right? Ahahaha
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Old Oct 20, 2011, 06:41 PM
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wot a pig sorry man id punch him bak just desserts.I agrre woods don't sound safe u need to b in town.I have a girlfriend in similar situation she wont leave cause of children he also emotionally black mails her.Man I hope u will b o.k. Prayers to u mayb ur doc shld hve just pt u nto hospital ?big huggs did he mke ur kidneys bleed B******d howd he like to b cut nd burned?sorry Hope u b ok
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