Sex educator and first time

I was simply confused because I've never heard of a sex educator in my life.

And I didn't go to kindergarten in the first place, I'm from the UK, we don't have kindergarten, kinda like we dont have sex educators

I'm 100% serious when I say if you said you were a 'sex educator' around me people would think you were trying to chat them up with a really bad chat up line.

I've taught sex ed in schools. We get sex ed in schools and then either go to a GP for medical stuff or therapist if there's something wrong psychologically.

Maybe they exist in the main cities here but I've certainly never heard of one, I messaged my friends in the uk who are all ages and live all over the country to see if I was just weird and none of them had ever heard of them either.

They have everything in new york city.

Well you sound like you're coming off as "because I've never heard of it, then it must not exist."

And this is starting to get argumentive...I would rather not have my thread shut down.

That's not what I meant at all, I'm not meaning to be argumentative, so much can be misconstrued through text, I started off concerned you were being conned by a dirty old letch who would take advantage of you, then became genuinely intrigued as I've never heard of such a thing, and then defensive due to being sniped at and told to 'go back to kindergarten'.
I've never said they don't exist, what I've said is I have never heard of them and have no idea why they would exist. I totally accept that they exist in the US, I've never said they didn't exist there, what I said was they don't exist here and I've never even heard of them until this thread. It's a totally alien concept to me, it's just the concept of going to a specialised 'educator' for sex just sounds like the kids in school who'd charge other kids a quid to teach them to snog.
All I've ever meant is what the heck is one of those I've never heard of them we don't have them are you sure it's a real thing and someone's not going to take advantage or scam you of money for advise you can find yourself online?
I agree sex health is important. Ive always been very open with kids ive taught sex ed to and they've always felt they can talk to me honestly and i'll answer them honestly. But as I say here if there is something wrong physically you see your GP, if its mentally you see your psych and if its advise on fun and games you google it!

Totally no offense meant. I only got snippy when I was snipped at! And even then I didn't mean offense I was still just trying to get my point across. Not that I didn't believe you, that I was concerned about you and confused/intrigued about these people's role in society and the need for them.

I'm sorry, it really can be hard to understand someone over text.

I had called the sex educator and told her my story of how I was a first-timer and had concerns about being physically and mentally ready, and she told me how it's normal to feel that way and that the key to a successful relationship and sex is clear communication. She talked about other things too, but since I didn't have any specific questions she just gave me the general run-down of safe sex. What she said that was interesting was that even though he tested clean of STD's and how I am using the Mirena, I should still use a condom in case there were STD's that were undetected or that sometimes the semen can actually cause yeast infections if my body is not used to it. And it is also better going "double dutch" to go the extra mile to prevent pregnancy, because one of my Dad's coworker's wife became pregnant on the Mirena.

That's what I thought. It just sounded by some of the responses that they were talking about your having intercourse with the educator. They might've been talking about your actual partner.

Aah right! See we'd go to the family planning clinic or GP for condom/pill advise (even though only the GP can prescribe you the pill)

Yeah, that's the kind of stuff we'd try and cover in sex ed in schools, being ready and common concerns, the percentage of reliability of different forms of contraception, the gestation period of STDs, the risks of not using condoms that are not STD related and the debunking of old wives tales like you can't get pregnant if you douche afterwards etc. But you can also ask at the family planning clinic about those things, the nurses are pretty open even though primarily they're there to give out condoms&advise on types of contraception. Most people who aren't in their teens though go to the GP about contraception (obviously not condoms lol) and I think if you're STD checked they offer you condoms then.