Husband's erectile issues

We've been married nearly 3 years and our sex life has never been great. Throughout our whole relationship my husband has always had a problem with his penis going soft half way through sex. I've done my best to not make an issue of it but he gets so upset by it when it happens its always the end of sex and I'm left frustrated though I try not to show it. I haven't had an orgasm in over a year and that was by myself. We've talked and he says he worries just before we have sex about his erection but other than that doesn't think about it.

He doesn't have a very good sex drive either. Mine was a lot higher but over the years has dampened down due to the situation.

Sometimes on a night after he's been asleep about an hour he starts to play with me in his sleep which wakes us both and we have sex no problem. He doesn't have a problem with keeping his erection then at all. I love him and I want to help but this situation. I'm starting to think its my fault and he doesn't fancy me anymore. In my own head I think its cos he can't bear to look to look at me naked. I've kept that thought to myself though.

Its just stress and hes mind. Even if he says he doesn't worry about it while you have sex, hes self consciousness probably is. See if he works to much and is stressing, maybe there is something on hes mind that he keeps thinking, maybe its even hes erection he is thinking.
I doubt he doesn't fancy you anymore.

I had issue with my erection to, and once i spent a week with just my friends and having fun all the time, i didn't have time to have stress or be worried about anything and i had my strongest erection in years

Well stress and erections aren't a good mix. Xanax has helped me out in that area a lot. Also there is Viagra that is likely to help some.

To me a big thing he could do to improve the situation is for him to stop masturbating, you don't mention this but how often does he "go solo" and just and FYI he might be embarrassed to tell you the complete truth.

I've asked him and he says he's no interest in masturbation. He just likes it when he's having sex with me. I've asked him to be honest and that if he does its really not a problem but he says he's not at all.

This problem has been going on for a few years now.

Could be physical or psychological.

Does he have nocturnal/awakening erections? If he does, it would suggest more likely a psychological element. If not, possibly a hormonal issue.

Does he ever fantasize about sex?
Does he get irritable or moody easily?

Has he tried Cialis or Viagra?

Perhaps you could go to your doctor together. A lot of men have these issues as some point in their lives.

I think you should have him go on cialis if only for the placebo effect of being reassured. Another idea is not have him enter you until you have at least one orgasm clitorally, assuming that is how you orgasm. Your sex lifw is way too penis-centric atm.

He does have nocturnal erections now and then. He sometimes wakes us both up to find he's started playing with me. I do think its psychological but I've no idea how to help him. He's 27 so I'm not sure he would go for Viagra. He wont go to the doctors.

He doesn't fantasize about sex. We're usually very honest with each other. I've asked him if he has a fantasy I could maybe help with but he says he has none. He says he doesnt think about sex much either. His moods are pretty stable and he doesnt get angry easily.

You're right our sex life is very penis orientated. My husband isnt the most of passionate lovers. I've tried to tell him what I like and guide him with what works for me but he never does it again. He does go down on me now and then but I get so self conscious (I'm overweight) that he's bored or I smell or I'm awful to look at that I stop it. During intercourse when he goes soft that is always the end of sex. We've talked about it and I've suggested that we can maybe do other things even if it does happen but when it does actually happen he just stops altogether and its over.

Dont get me wrong, my husband is the most amazing guy and I love him dearly but our bedroom fun just isnt happening and I'd like to change it.

Dont make him use any drugs like viagra!! its pointless and you might only make him addicted to it. People should seriously stop using unnecessary meds.